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So over it today, sick of dealing with my special needs child on my own. I am exhausted. So over having to deal with the fall out of xwh decisions to put himself & ow first. Why is it so hard to ring your kids a couple of times a week and actually follow through with visitation and actually have them when you are supposed too.

((((HUGS))))

It's not self pity. It's HARD.
I raised my sons in a two parent home, and i am raising my only Daughter alone. It is worlds harder than I really understood! I SO get it. I am exhausted too, (and broke lol.).

((Bluebird)) take heart, they do grow up so fast, looking back on my sons who are men now. Your a Great Mom!

thank you, it will be a new day tomorrow. But today it's hard.

It sucks when you have to deal with the fallout the kids go through and just the normal things with kids. I tend to get very resentful of ex-shat when I feel like I'm the only one cleaning up vomit or messes or accidents. Or when I feel like I'm the only one doing the discipline.

Deep breath, mama. Today is a new day. And there will be a new joy that xwh misses out on. And you get it all to yourself.

((((Bluebird))))

Of course you are exhausted and I so feel for you as it is not easy - I don't know what to say, but want you to know you are being heard and to encourage you. On a certain level xWH HAS to know he is a failure - one day it will bite him.

(((Bluebird26))) I get it. I know that exhaustion that you speak of. Special needs child here to. XWS hasn't been to a Dr. appt (specialist or otherwise) in 4 years and he lives close. Of course he still has to question my approach and choices in medication. When we were together, he used to say "people just don't understand how challenging our life is. Everything is so much harder for us." Then he up and left and left me to deal with that "harder life" by myself. Now he is just one of those people who doesn't understand.