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k, need your advice and help, cant put this off any longer. What do I need to take to a lawyer, i am thinking of pictures of atv, boats, truck, car, house, sheds, stage, etc. Copies of bills, and bank statements, the letter he wrote me in October, my cell phones with all those "Im coming back, i love you, wish this didnt happen, wont be long now" bullshit I cant believe it has come to this, I didnt do this, he should have been the one to clean up this mess not me, he has no backbone. God give me the strength to do this, I am scared

Is this a consult or have you retained this attorney? For a consult, you really only need financial details. You probably don't need pictures at this stage, just a list of those types of assets and when they were purchased. Also bring information about any retirement or investment accounts you have, when they were opened, and balances. Same for credit cards, mortgages, loans etc.

The texts and whatnot don't matter as much. Many states don't have fault divorce so it doesn't matter what he texted you. You can speak with the L about this. If you can and choose to file fault D, then you can bring in that type of evidence at that time.

Edit: woah, wait, I see your tagline says common law. That's a game changer. The financial stuff still applies (I am assuming you live somewhere that CL marriage isrecognized legally) but the fault/no fault might not. Again, speak to the L about the settlement process for CL.

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 12:35 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]

our situation is a bit different, we never married but lived common law and had 2 kids together, been together for 24 years, so I dont know what the laws are regarding assets, not as cut and dry as with divorce or is it? will have to find this all out I HATE THIS

Bring all the asset info anyway. The L can help you sort out what's what. That's what you're paying her/him for.

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 12:37 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]

the text messages are mostly to be able to show why i havent done this sooner, why i havent ended this nightmare myself.

Up until recently, reading his texts were a comfort, a reason to not give up hope but they say actions speak louder than words

Inside I feel like a child having a temper tantrum, screaming and yelling that I dont want to do this, I dont want to go

Met with a lawyer last year to discuss protecting our assets from OW, have it on good advice not to trust her, shared this with WH too, but now I need to protect myself from both of them because at this point I don't trust either one of them. We had a joint account which he closed and deposited all the money into a separate account with only his name on it, his "reason" was to control my spending, I bought this bull at the time because we did argue about my spending, I have to be honest I am a bit carefree with money, or I used to be. But I have the letter from he bank stating the account was closed and both our nmaes are on it. That will be pretty damaging to him..... Good!