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Zayda1 (original poster member #35387) posted at 9:55 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
WH had an affair with a mother at my daughter's school. I have told only one friend who is a mutual acquaintance with the OW (our kids are in the same class).
She has been very helpful in letting me vent and supporting me (offering to take our daughter to birthday parties that we know OW will be attending).
My friend texted me today "Guess who has been messaging Damian for random things that she could totally message me for"
My stomach dropped and I am fighting a panic attack. I am terrified that she is now trying something with my friend's DH. I'm waiting for my friend to return my call. I'm not sure if her DH showed her the messages or if she found them by accident.
I really do hope this is all innocent and my friend and I are just hypersensitive
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 11:41 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
I would say its time to out this bitch.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
Heavy Sigh ( member #34243) posted at 11:50 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
It's possible she's ashamed to message the friend, knowing the two of you are close, so messages the husband.
Or she's a vindictive witch.
Difficult to know. The husband can say "I'll hand the phone to my wife so she can answer your question" and that should end the problem. Let's hope Damian isn't intrigued by the idea she's possibly interested in him.
Zayda1 (original poster member #35387) posted at 12:05 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
She doesn't know that I told our mutual friend, so she has no reason to be ashamed to message her.
I have spoken with her and she is in high alert. She thanked me for telling her about our situation. Her husband showed her all the messages and says he will continue to show them.
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 1:20 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Uh, no.
He needs to block that...OW...and let her know she's not welcome to contact him, especially when it would be more suited to contact his W.
Boundaries. She's fishing and he shouldn't give her a toehold.
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 1:58 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Safeguard ( member #38899) posted at 2:03 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
How is she getting these H's personal contact numbers?
"since your actions don't match your words, excuse me while I stop believing you."
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:22 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
jjsr & Heavy -
Please remember to follow the posting guidelines of the Recon forum.
There is to be no venting about or name calling the OP in this forum.
Thank you.
Zayda1 (original poster member #35387) posted at 2:34 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Her kids are in our school (same grade/classes). I'm not sure how she has his cell number (I don't have it, but my boundaries are probably a lot more definitive than most people.
They are both aware of the kind of woman she is. My friend is on high alert and is aware of how big an issue this is. I do not want to out her as I don't want it to impact my children. My MC has told us to keep our distance as much as possible because he believes she could be dangerous if cornered.
A year out I thought stuff like this wouldn't be an issue. 
Married 10 years, together for 12 years
2 children (9 years & 6 years)
Discovery of PA 04/15/12 (It only lasted a "couple of weeks" but it still shattered my world.)
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