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jackie89 posted 4/28/2013 21:25 PM

Today, I am almost settled in my new apartment.

We have been separated for over a year. Then a couple months ago, we agreed for us to put the house up for sale. It sold in 2 days, so finally moved to a little apartment with the 2 kids (DS18, DD14).

I went back to the house early this morning to clean it all out - and ready for settlement on Tuesday - (dreading this, being with STBXH for close to 2hrs)

It was the hard and really emotional, knowing that I was there in that house for the last time. Cleaned and cried the pratically the whole time. I loved that house, It was just a perfect little house, we bought it in really bad shape, spent a ton of money making it great - with practically everything new - because we thought it would be a forever house- my DD was 3 months when we moved in - my DS was 4 - so this was their home, their neighborhood.

But here I am in an apartment, and I am making it really cozy, with new decorating things, new towels, etc, I know it will not be forever, and that someday I will buy a house again.

I am proud of myself, for planning, and making the move go smoothly - because I was organized, worked my ass off, moving the little stuff myself with friends... I saved 300.00 with moving company!

In one day, my little place is almost in complete order - plus attending 2 soccer games!

So all in all, a productive, bit emotional weekend.

Kajem posted 4/28/2013 21:51 PM

Congratulations on your new beginning and the feathering of your new nest.

Hugs for the bittersweet parts.

K

little turtle posted 4/28/2013 22:24 PM

Welcome to your new beginning!

Looking forward to hearing/reading stories about your new adventures.

jackie89 posted 4/29/2013 07:44 AM

Thank you! I am looking forward to this new beginning, focusing on my future, and concentrating on the well being of my kids.

Tomorrow, is settlement, once that's signed and delivered, I don't really need to deal with STBXH much. Kids have their own cell phones, and I'm flexible with whatever they want to do with their Dad.

Other than... when he'll respond to my divorce papers - filed in 8/11.
Until then, planning on enjoying my independence. God give me health - then I can work and provide for me and my kids.

Survivor3512 posted 4/29/2013 09:26 AM

Congratulations!!! So happy you're starting your new beginning!

She11ybeanz posted 4/29/2013 09:35 AM

I, too, moved into a duplex a year ago this month...and have made it a home for me and my baby girl! Its not the same as my house was...but it has become MINE...and our home...and it has grown on me! I know someday things will get better and easier....and I just am trying to be patient and be happy with having something that is all mine!

Congrats on your new place! The hard part is behind you!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:35 AM, April 29th (Monday)]

nowiknow23 posted 4/29/2013 09:50 AM

((((jackie89)))) Sending you strength for the settlement tomorrow.

thebighurt posted 4/29/2013 11:52 AM

Congrats on the new start and getting this much behind you. Mojo and good wishes for the settlement. And the soccer games!