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User Topic: waiting for next bomb to drop
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Default  Posted: 2:45 AM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well now that i have kicked Ws to curb ifeel like I'm waiting for next bomb to drop. what i mean is I don't want to make rash decisions as it's only been 5 days since D-day so i'm not ready to ask for a divorce and he isn't sure thats what he wants. So I can't stop thinking there is a glimmer of hope, but I don't want to think this way I want to just assume it will end in divorce so that I don't get my hopes up and then get dumped on again. I don't know if that is coming out right does anyone understand what I mean? I'm also having trouble not driving by her house to see if he is there. So far I haven't seen him there. every minute of the day I am wondering where he is. I feel like I am dying inside so confused, hurt, angry, how do I stop getting hopes up and just wanting his arms around me. How can I feel this way after what he has done?

me-BS (52).
2 children 24 and 23
Together 33 years divorced one year
Ow-(30)and she knew me knew he is married.
D-day 1 4/24/2013
D-day 2. 7/9/2013. Day after anniversary
D-day 3. 8/12/13.
Filing for divorce

Posts: 135 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: connecticut
Member # 38921
Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear waiting, you have just entered the twilight zone, you are about to feel more confusion, hurt, pain, and large quantities of anger.

I am 2 months from dday and the confusion grows and grows. I love him, I want to "fix" this at all cost; to F him, he did this to me and us. Divorce yes, divorce no way.

Confusion, pain, anger, and uncertainty (about everything) are now your companions.
Stay on here, they help a great deal. There are many very wise people on here

Give yourself time, I still don't know and I think that's normal. Do the 180 to save yourself down the road. Whether you D or R, I think it is valuble.

Stay strong, look after yourself. Remember this is something "he" did. Look after you.

I read a great quote the other day
"I am more important to ME than my relationship."

Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
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