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iloveyouperiod posted 4/29/2013 03:12 AM

My H and I would drink beer and wine almost every night before Dday. I feel that it has been a terrible poison in our marriage. Is it unreasonable to ask H to stop drinking while we work to re-build?

haleyscomet posted 4/29/2013 03:26 AM

I wouldn't worry about whether it was reasonable or not.
You have your reasons -
Mine used to use alcohol as a hiding place... I've wasted so many hours that probably add up to days or weeks even -- waiting for him to sober up so that we could talk... it was often a very small window of opportunity

be prepared for him to resist your suggestion / request

iloveyouperiod posted 4/29/2013 03:42 AM

That's what I am afraid of. Before finding out about his 4 month affair with a W from work, we would both use alcohol to hide from our problems. We agreed to not drink for 30 days, he to look deep inside himself for the real reasons he did this to us and me to avoid the emotional outbursts that I know would start to happen after a few glasses of wine. Only 2 days are left and I don't want to feel resentful when he picks up a beer again. I am choosing to extend my 30 days until I think I can handle it, I feel great physically and I don't want to damage our progress.

DDay 3/19/2013
Me BW 37
Him WH 37
Married 14 years

[This message edited by iloveyouperiod at 3:44 AM, April 29th (Monday)]

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