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User Topic: I just don't care any more
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While I was shopping, someone who is a relative of a relative saw me, gave me a big hug and said she heard how well I am doing now and how glad she is to hear it. Asked about a couple of specifics that told me she knows more.

She is a very nice person that I like and who is no-nonsense about infidelity and who she supports in it. So I made small talk asking her about her family and all. Then she asked more specific things. I figured wtf? I answered her, telling her more right there in the store than I have told other than close friends, my IC and here on SI. It felt good.

I really don't care any more. It is what it is and I didn't say anything that isn't the truth. There are people I know as well, unlike her, who would only ask so they could gossip, immediately spreading it, that I will avoid saying things to, but I just don't care any more in general. If those things eventually get around, that's ok too. Because it's the truth.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 3893 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
♂ 14866
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not being ashamed of the truth is a big step in the healing IMO.


Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hurt 1
I am sorry about what you are going through. Like MOO said, you are healing.


Exit Wounds
H of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.

Posts: 2691 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I found a bit of honesty when appropriate felt freeing. It's a process. My next milestone was reaching the point that I no longer felt the need to share it because gradually what he did is no longer the center of my life. That's a gradual thing but I'm there more and more.


Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

Posts: 5292 | Registered: Mar 2011
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How freeing!

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

Posts: 3870 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, May 1st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does feel freeing doesn't it?

You have nothing to be ashamed of and should be able to get support wherever you can

remarried 11-15-15

Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.

Posts: 1784 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Clover, SC
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