D-Day, June 10, 2012
Tell. In my case, the bimbo's betrayed husband and I answered a LOT of questions for one another.
Same! Knowledge is power. My WH and that bimbo kept all of us in the dark for years while they carried on their disgusting and selfish relationship.
OBS and I are finally in a position to make life decisions based on reality instead of false love and split affection and cruel deceit.
BS:45 WH:47 needhelp123
8yr EA&PA w/MCOW emp/frmr emp
19y M * 25y T, 2 teens
DDay 12/31/12*5w TT
Sick tired sad
The most important being that she may not want to talk to you... or worse... even lash out at you as another cause for all her troubles. Just be hyper aware of that and prepared to back off if needed.
My IC says that's "venturing off my side of the street" in 12-step parlance.
In short, there are too many upsides to telling her.