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User Topic: Is this normal?
♀ 38604
Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some days I feel so hopeful WH is doing everything I ask and working so hard. I'll go a day or two and feel optimistic, loved, and I feel like my best friend is back. The next day, I'll trigger and every bit of doubt returns. The mind movies come back and my mood spirals downward. I get angry and start to shut down.

Last Thursday was horrid. The bunny boiler reared her ugly head, stressed everyone out completely. My husband has a condition called cataplexy. He literally goes rigid, catatonic etc. this latest episode with the OW has pushed him into a 3 day episode. So much so that he's cancelled all work travel and Docs are changing his meds. He can't drive or travel for at least 7 days.

Today is our wedding anniversary. There will be no celebrating. I just feel sad. Now I get to go home and take care of him when he's supposed to be taking care of me.

ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 476 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
♀ 38317
Member # 38317
Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry you have been hurt this way. Additionally it must be awful to have to take care of him when you are hurting so badly. I hope you can get some relief soon.


Me BS 57
Him FWH 60
M 35 years
3 Adult kids

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gods below, I am so sorry. Have you looked at pursuing an RO with this bitch? Given your WHs medical condition and reaction, I would hope that the court system would come through for you.

Yeah, it blows that at a time when he should be catering to your every want and need, you have to take care of him because of HIS actions. I'm so sorry.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 9939 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
♀ 35157
Member # 35157
Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((((((Chef)))))))))). So sorry dearie. Hope everything gets stable for you. I hear counseling can work wonders.

"Some glad morning when this life is o'er, I'll fly away.
To a home on God's celestial shore, I'll fly away.
I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away (IN THE MORNING!)
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away!"

Posts: 85 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Alabama
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