OK look, you already know that she screwed around on you once right? So what is really the difference if she did it twice? Would it be any worse if it was 5 or 10 or 20 times?
The plain fact is that she already blew your M up with the *one* you know about. The damage is the same no matter how many times she did it. And yeah dude, you are a little paranoid now. While that's completely normal for a BS considering their world has just imploded, when it's taken to extremes at the same time you're trying to R, it gives birth to all sorts of other shit you just don't need to deal with right now.
So here's my suggestion to you. Get into IC if you're not already. Make *this* issue your first priority there. Puke it *all* out to the counselor and let him/her give you some tools to address the paranoia. Because until you begin to realize that the poor people in Hiroshima would be no less dead if we dropped a *hundred* atom bombs there, you'll never be able to deal with this and begin to R with your WW.
Of course you *do* have another option open to you. Just cut through all the bullshit now and file for D. Oops, you know what though, it *still* wouldn't matter then how many dudes she slept with now would it?
*Think about it*
ETA: Please don't think I'm being flippant here. I know your pain brother because I was there not too long ago. I just want you to think this over in your mind before you do something that may get out of hand. PEACE
[This message edited by PanicAttack53 at 12:26 AM, April 30th (Tuesday)]