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User Topic: Affair season is upon us...
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife and I are knee deep in her affair season. These dates arent front and center this year. I feel its progress. We are busy with family, spending time supporting each other. It feels different this affair season. The scar is still scabbed but I am definately not bleedig anymore. My wife is engaged in family and still working with her IC despite a crazy work life right now. Progress.... Affair season begone!


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1924 | Registered: Nov 2010
numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like I have said before it is powerful to know that this can get better.

I am not in affair season myself (yet anyway), but definitely on the downward swing. I am processing a lot right now that I had pushed away.

I know it gets better and that keeps me going most days.


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


Posts: 2570 | Registered: May 2010
why2008
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Progress.... Affair season begone!

The further out you get, the less the time of the year will remind you of the affair!

Congrats on the progress you have both made!


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

Posts: 4074 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC
phoenix54
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One year anniversary is coming up this Saturday, May 4th.

It is very much in my consciousness right now.

My WW recently restarted IC but she does not seem committed to going.

We are still in MC. I really don't know where this is going to lead.

What are the chances she'll actually remember that d-day is coming up? I'm not optimistic.

LHAP:
I wish you and your wife all the best. You have provided great insight and support during my time here on SI. Congratulations on your progress.


BH: 45 (me)
WW: 43
11 month PA/EA
4 children
D-day: 5/4/12
Married: 17 years
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 436 | Registered: Aug 2012
lordhasaplan?
♂ 30079
Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Numb,
It does.. If you do the work together and peel the onion one layer at a time it does. I would say were now about ready for a rebuilding process, the fire is out, we cleared out the old rubble and time to really start a rebulding process.

Congrats on the progress you have both made!

thanks WHY! and Phoenix!



D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1924 | Registered: Nov 2010
Knowing
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, A season here, started with Easter (ugh) and everything is coming back to me. I finally decided to finish a project I never completed: putting family pictures on the wall. I started with last years' pics.

I can see that it will get easier, this first time around is awful, though!


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Way to go LHAP!!

So I guess the advantage of an LTA is ALL year is affair season



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1817 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a lousy time of year, all right.

Keep in mind:

It was never about you.
It was always about your W, and she's healing.
You're healing.
And your contract helps you both be in your M.

I wish you an easy A season.

(((lhap?)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10581 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
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