Thank you, Heavy Sigh.
My family members have worried about this for the duration. It's one reason I didn't leave except for a few hours for over a year.
There is a theory by those family members and some friends that he would be happy moving OW to the house he built for us and kicking me out with a baseball bat. Another thought that makes me gag.
Some of OWs own activities, like with stealing my pictures, did not helpt to alleviate my doubt.
I keep coming back to the fact that it was him that changed and not me. I know it's not too relevant, but for me it's quite relevant.
He keeps changing what he says about the house in particular. One day is kind, saying we can stay as long as we want to. Lately this has changed and he said "I'm not paying that mortgage forever." So this has me scared and I'm trying not to show that I am.
I just quietly log what he says and forward it to my lawyer. I'm hoping that it will also show how wishy-washy he is, so that for things like parenting, maybe won't work in his favor?
He's made himself basically homeless, so that could help, some have said but it may be simply to protect OW until the papers are in place? I have been told that may also be in favor of my getting custody.
I know that I over-analyze and am trying to slow it down, but it's a coping mechanism for otherwise having panic.
He has a term called "pushback". He used this when he was stealing stuff and selling it over the last year. It rings familiar with what's going now, where I'm getting the "pushback" this time. I don't know how accurate that is, just a word that came to mind that he used all the time to mean arguing if I didn't cave to anything and everything.
This is in relation to marital assets, which he had no realization that stuff isn't just "mine" anymore. I did ask him once we went to lawyer mode to stop giving things away or selling anything without my knowledge. He got quite angry when I had the nerve to bring it up because its yet again another "boundary".
Veering off topic I go again.Ashland 13
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.