Our lives since November first have been pretty much one disaster or emergency after another. Its been very stressful, and I actually had a mini meltdown/panic attack.
The latest was a water pipe busting in a wall in the house. So now we had to re drywall, put in 2 new floors, and paint. Our HOI deductable is high so that we can afford our monthly payments, and the cost of replacing all of the things was so close, we decided not to claim it.
When shit hits the fan, DH and I are the best team. We work together, we divy up responsiblities, and attack things like we were one person in two bodies.
Why in the hell can't we attack our relationship and fix it the same way?
To be honest, things between us are really good. We talk, we laugh, we havent had a low dip in a long time.
On the flip side, I never got any resolution to my worries that started me here. I have never gotten an email password or access to any of his online stuff. So I am basically just actively ignoring that part.
My gut doesnt scream that something is going on, but its hard to not know 100% truth of everything.
We are even though. He no longer has access to my things automatically - which was really freeing to me. I will give him access whenever he asks, without fail. I have nothing to hid, its just nice to know that I have been granted privacy back.
I just wish the same could be extended to me.
Like I said - I wish we could attack our relationship with the same drive, partnership, and compromise that we do projects that we do.