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I got a new IC yesterday an boy the difrence is night and day between the last one and new one i got. My BS always tould me just cuss the a counsler dont mean they good. An first one wasnt. So passive and qiet stairing at me alot qiet. Sed that damn thing ive done alot. The ummmm thing. You know alot of you sey ummm lol. I havnt in long time thou. Stopd that and working on not seying IWas just trying. Seying that to things pisses my BS off on a high lvl. Feels i trying to make sound as if sge wasnt lissening ti me and i defensive and repeating in sarcastic way im gessing. This new IC dont shut up at all lmao. He has alot to sey and his personality is easy to talk to also. I went into some verry verry hard things to sey to anyone. BS pulld some ugly as hell info from childe life thelis passd weak so i shaird with IC. He seamd lil botherd and ashamed for me i had that life. I sed more in my one day sofar with him than i did in 5 seshens with the last IC lol. For once i looking forwerd to next meeting. An i feel i doing for my self first and learning my self. Over going for relationship only. My BS was realy shockd i found a good IC let lone go for my self now. She sed i took alot of waight off her and was glad. Cuss i made it as if IC was only cuss of her and if she left ide stop going to IC. So its a great feeling to take waight off the women of my life i love. An i hape to keep learning and seeing. An i want to make it in life of one of the few. Not live a life of one of the manny.

The new IC sounds great. Keep telling him everything. That gives him data to figure out your patterns as you keep digging deep.

Lol your onlyone posted back all day. Everyone els is inly talking of bad things and never good. More interesting to hear the bad i gess

good Luck. Hope your new ic helps you on by our journey. Sending positive mojo.

[This message edited by openedupmyeyes at 8:18 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

Strawda - sometimes it is slow in here and if you don't have a burning question, then it makes sense that people focus on the posters who need more urgent help. Hang in there.

Tons of folks read, but sometimes many don't post. It's okay. You are in this for you, not for us.

I think it's cool that you see the issue with "ummm" and "trying". Little words that sometimes have great effect in unintentional ways...not for the best.