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New Beginnings :
on my own, but feeling good now

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 survivor_kh (original poster member #33738) posted at 6:31 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

I can't express into words how good It felt to come into SI when my life felt in shambles and I was too depressed or ashames to talk about my feelings in much detail with anyone irl.

everytime I log in and read posts or post my own topic, I feel less alone and I gather more perspective(wanted or not )

My last post was about how sad, alone, and desperate I was feeling, and thanks to the amazingingly supportive feedback I got, I was able to truly feel uplifted.

Today I decided that being on my own is a blessing. I get to do what want, and feel good everyday that I I accomplish something new. heres what ive got that makes me feel good about being me right now.

I tuned up my own lawnmower(googled it)

I planted an herb garden

I'm getting interviewed for a better paying postion at my second job(every $ matters)

I'm getting my braces off at the end of summer

I enrolled in two fall classes and am only twelve classes short of my BS

Im happy being single right now :).

I have awesome friends who help me look for my lost cat in the dark in my neighbor's yard, while I cry about how he's too fat to run if car almost hits him.

I'm excited to be a bridesmaid in just two weeks for a great friend, and I'm not worried about taking a date to the wedding.

this is the most comfortable I have felt in two years, maybe longer.

I helped my brother pick out dad's gravemarker and supported his choices, making me feel all big sistery.

I like hanging out with myself

I owe a lot of this state of mind to fellow SIers, who have helped me see things in a different light, and made me remember how good it feels to know that I am strong on my own.

Surviving is important, thriving is elegant- Maya Angelou

you is kind, you is smart, you is important

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want_to_forgive ( member #20470) posted at 7:46 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

What an awesome post! Thanks, I needed that

ETA: I meant thanks for the inspiration! And I couldn't agree more with how fabulous the people here are.

[This message edited by want_to_forgive at 1:48 AM, May 1st (Wednesday)]

M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

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stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 11:26 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

I always find that being lonely while single is better than being lonely in a relationship.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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 survivor_kh (original poster member #33738) posted at 9:28 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

Stronger08, I couldn't agree more!

Surviving is important, thriving is elegant- Maya Angelou

you is kind, you is smart, you is important

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:28 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

Love this!

It takes courage to stand on our own. I get lonely sometimes too but far less lonely than I was pre-DD.

Its also a breakthrough to realise we're OK on our own. I've never been a 'couply' person but after almost a decade it was a tough adjustment to make.

The freedom of being able to do whatever the hell I want to do seemed big and was scary at first. I well and truly have the hang of it now though.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:53 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 5:16 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013

Great to hear!!!

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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