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 nolight (original poster member #32785) posted at 1:03 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

I've just returned home from Afghanistan, I've spent the first few days moving into my new home and settling back into work so have been busy. Tonight I went to dinner for a friends birthday, there was a big group and I suddenly realised I was the only single one there...talk about feeling like a loser. I'm 32, divorced with no children and everyone around me is settled I feel like a failure

We make our own fortunes and call them fate, and what better excuse to choose a path then to insist it's our destiny.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:31 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

(((((nolight))))) Sweetie, take it easy on yourself. So many big changes and adjustments over such a short amount of time! Now's the time to focus on you. Heal, adjust, find your footing. Practice your self care, and when you're ready, stretch your wings a bit. Try something new. Indulge a hobby or interest that's been put on the back burner. Explore your self. You're worth the time and focus.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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veelop5 ( member #11089) posted at 1:32 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

Look at all the single people here!!! Talk to us...Don't feel like a failure you are so young!!!! I can't see your story so I am not sure how longs it's been but come here and seek comfort....Welcome home!!

ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

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 nolight (original poster member #32785) posted at 2:09 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

Thank you I'm a bit all over the place I definitely don't think that single people are losers, some of the strongest,most incredible people are right here on this board! So I hope my post didn't upset anyone.

We make our own fortunes and call them fate, and what better excuse to choose a path then to insist it's our destiny.

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want_to_forgive ( member #20470) posted at 1:57 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

The group of women I hang out with are all carry-overs from when I was married. We all would do things as couples sometimes. I am closer to some than others for sure. I still have my moments when they are all talking about doing a "couples" activity that it kind of stabs at me, but then I remember this:

I wasn't happy in my M, and I did something about it. Finally. Now I have the chance to move on to a better place. Several of these women are not in happy marriages either, but they aren't doing anything to make things better with our without their spouse. So I will take being alone with the possibility of meeting someone great and being happy over staying in a miserable marriage.

(((nolight))) It will get better!

M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:28 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

All my friends were married when I got my D too. It was pretty tough. But then I noticed how much they all complained about their marriages (and kids), and how jealous they were of me getting to date.

I'm still friends with those ladies, but I've branched out and have a lot more friends now, many single. And I've developed some really fun new hobbies in the process!

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 4:49 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013

(((Nolight))) you're not a failure. You're going to be just fine. :)

Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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