BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
After 4 months of my first new beginning, I decided to stop seeing this woman I met on match.com. Overall, it was a great experience, but she was wanting to move wayyyyy to fast for what I am comfortable with. Over the last couple weeks, she was putting lots of pressure to move in to her place ASAP, and I communicated that I thought it was way too soon for that to happen. Also, there was tension growing every time I left her place to go home for the night. She wanted me to sleep over all the time, and I just wasn't comfortable with doing it while her kids were around. I just felt really pressured and this just wasn't sitting right with me. I am very patient, she was extremely impatient.
So I went to her place last night and told her face to face that this wasn't working for me anymore, and that it was best we go our own separate ways. She was upset and a little angry, but that was what I was expecting. I wasn't going to charade around like everything was OK. She said that she wants to have someone with her 24/7, and she doesn't want to wait for that to happen. Additionally, her pending divorce has become extremely volatile, and I honestly see the potential for long-term ugliness between the two of them. Real ugly!!
So, I don't regret taking that first step into the dating pool, I think I'll just cool my jets at this point, and not rush into anything. That was the first woman I had ever "been with" aside from STBXWW, and that part of it was real enjoyable , but in the end I knew things weren't going to work out, so I ended it instead of dragging things along. Tough to do, I was sweating bullets before meeting her last night, but I think it was the right way to do it.
We'll see what happens in the future, but it was a new experience for me and I don't regret taking that dip.....
[This message edited by msk99 at 12:37 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)]
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.