Keep Calm and Happy On!
Im having same problem with XH. They are babies and want everything to revolve around them. I have to say part is my fault because I loved him so much I babyed him.
That being said, he has known since Jan 1 that he was going to have our children for 4 weeks total in the summer. Today is last day to "claim" the weeks and he is such a baby he doesn't want to tell me what weeks he's getting the children. He has thrown everything at me, including he wants to go for full custody. I laugh bc he has chosen 0 weeks for summer, but wants full custody. What a joke.
Also, when he has the children he is too preoccupied with texting his GF that kids are kinda on their own. He only has hot dogs to feed them, and he always brings them home late from visitation.
I took my counselor's advice: There need to be stark differences between the homes so that my children will SEE the best place for them is with me!
Anyway, what I figured out today is that he wants us to fight about inhalers, choosing weeks, feeding hot dogs or not feeding them. Because if we are fighting over all this stuff, we are not fighting over the REAL issue: They have a girlfriend and left their family.
So,,, today when he kept throwing one thing after another at me thru email, I simply said, "If you have a problem with visitation, consult your atty. I only need to know the dates you are having our children."
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:28 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)]
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day