regarding custody and child support, its all already taken care off. I have custody, he has every other weekend and 1 night a week. It was all taken care of when we separated 3 years ago. so no need to get courts involved. Plus, hes' too busy with school, I don't see him trying to get custody of dd.
This is all just exhausting.
You never truly know what Shit creek looks like until you find yourself sitting in the middle of it without a paddle.
Best of luck!
Only you know when enough proof is enough proof, but frankly, I would follow Darkonius's suggestion and keep repeating, "you need to tell me the truth. I know and you know that you're cheating. It doesn't matter how I know or who I've spoken with, you know and I know that you're cheating. You need to tell me the truth." Until you get the truth, he leaves, or you are disgusted enough to realize that you really don't need any more "evidence."
Conversely, if you really, truly want/need to know, hire a PI. Spend some of those family funds that he's been looting from your account. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Even when we argued, it's not a permit to do all that he did.
He's even trying to say "we" to people about getting divorced. "We?" Whaaa????
I said once in anger, I didn't go to OW's house, too!!!!!????
I hope you won't have to call the police. The one thing I do realize to share about trying to hold off court is that the law is about the only boundary STBXH believes in.
For me to not feel like the crazy person, I started a journal and make certainly certain that I say the same things over and over again. Then he knows my stance on something and I also know my stance and that way I am less wobbly with responding.
Don't know if it helps any.
MY STBXH is passive aggressive and a few other things and works very hard to make anything he does another persons fault-usually mine. If you can get to a sturdy rung on a ladder with your contact with him, I think it will put you in a good spot and hopefully be good for you.
It sure is easier to remember!
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
During my stronger minutes, it would be almost a fun ride to see if he would squirm. Luckily, it's electronic so I have it. And you know what? Once I hired a lawyer, I'm told some of it isn't there anymore or has gone underground more-like social network stuff.