I have already exposed 2 of the 3 OM she met on ashmadison to their spouses, and the 2nd one didn't go so well. In all of her questions my last name slipped out(regret) and she was able to use that to find WW's workplace and phone number. Of course the OM was in denial, after 1 day he admitted to talking with WW but claimed it never went anywhere, she didn't know what to believe and wanted me to confront him to his face(no, we would both go to jail,I highly doubt i could control myself). After some harassment and a police report things died down.
Now I'm preparing to inform the final other BS of her H's secret life. I believe ill send a letter to her, or an anonymous Facebook message. However i do it i want it to be anonymous, but i also want her to take it seriously. I dont have any solid evidence of their PA, i do have deleted text message fragments between them but that wont really help much. I considered opening an account on the cheater site she met him on so i could get a screenshot of his pic if/when i contacted him, but i don't think i need to go that deep into this, plus that would be terrible for my sanity.
I have found odd things about him. PO box and 2 other addresses registered to him 1 hour away from his house(where he asked my wife to meet him the last 2 times), and he has 6 different alias' in public records. I thought maybe including links to that information may be enough to make her want to look into it.
All i need to do is let her know that i found out about her husbands infidelity, that is all i feel i am responsible for and whether she believes it or not is not my issue, but I do want her to believe it so id like to do this the best way possible.
Anyone ever do something like this? Any opinions or suggestions are appreciated.