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User Topic: I'm Having Fun being Single Again !
gma56
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Cool  Posted: 2:25 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have started a new career in my NB and work with mostly men. I have a few new male friends in the same industry.
So went to a local bar with a new younger friend (he's late 40ish and divorced).
Him and I love our country music so we decided to check out the local talent together.

My friend looks young and I look ...my age. Some younger women kept looking at us and I noticed. They were definitely interested in my friend L. So I leaned over and told him about the group of women. He looked and said they were beautiful but he wasn't there to pick up women but to listen to music. Yep, L has been burned too and clueless.
About two hours later in the ladies room,two of the women approached me and asked if I was L's sister ? I just laughed and said,"No."
In the meantime L had talked with band on break and came back to the table when I returned. The band introduced L to the audience and L sang and played guitar for several songs. I had no idea L was so talented.

He dedicated a George Strait, (song that I love and reminds me of my Mom) Give it all We got Tonight, to me and pointed me out. He sounded great. He makes a good country singer even if he does wear a suit most days. lol
Then I heard the women behind me making comments about wth was HE doing with an old lady. I just laughed. I'm sooo not the cougar type.

So after the set he came back to the table and I told him about his fans. He planted a big kiss on me and said, Just to give them something to think about.
If I was married to FT, I wouldn't have never went out to enjoy the music I like. If FT were to agree to go, he would have ruined my joy of the evening.

I'm slowly enjoying and accepting being single and able to go do what I want.
I'm still not where I want to be but having fun even if it is warding off pushy women for a friend in small town California.

I'm lovin my life more and more.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You go girl!!!!!!

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6004 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
cryingdaily
♀ 7276
Member # 7276
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome! I like L.


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14410 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
cmego
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bwah, ha ha!!

I like him!


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4284 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
persevere
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4715 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You SO deserve to have that kind of evening. And L sounds like a very classy guy to me!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14


Posts: 2302 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two thumbs way UP!! I'm so glad you are having fun!!!


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

Posts: 505 | Registered: Jan 2013
ineedtoleave
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AWESOME!!!! I'm so happy for you... you've found your joy again! (((gma56)))


BS(me)-52
WH-59
OW-43(married ex-Co-worker)
Married 6 yrs
DD#1: 3/19/10
DD#2: 5/11/10
Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive.

Posts: 963 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Arizona
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This isn't my forum but with a title like that, I had to read this thread. Woot! You go girl!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just love reading the joy in this post.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is great.
Go gma!

Posts: 4729 | Registered: Dec 2009
gma56
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I guess I'm having learning to have fun again.

I'm loving learning to do life spontaneously. No young kids and no FT. Gotta love the freedom.

I always thought FT and I could have those moments after we became empty nesters. It's been fun in my NB on my own.
Maybe someday there will be a SO to share but until then, Gma is enjoying the moments with friends .
I feel like a new woman.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:22 PM, May 2nd (Thursday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 480 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

love this!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17799 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it!!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is making me !

Glad you are enjoying life.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7807 | Registered: Aug 2005
gogirl
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome to hear Gma. I absolutely wish you the best! You are a very special lady.

Great to hear you are having some fun!


It's never too late to live happily ever after.


Posts: 572 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: North
cass
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


Posts: 4975 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this gma.

I haven't had male friends for a decade. The ones I had in my late 20s were either exes or or my reserve bench and IMO it was not appropriate to continue those friendships once I was in a relationship.

It has been fantastic to build new platonic male friendships. I have really missed the 'male' energy - don't get me wrong, I love my girl-gang, they are an amazing and hilarious bunch but I did miss having strong, smart, witty men around me.

Its a different kind of chicken soup for the soul.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5735 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
somer222
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Member # 21377
Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! Sounds like you found a very nice friend to have some fun with - enjoy!

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