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thisissogross posted 5/3/2013 15:36 PM

He was the most pathetic one at the humane society that day, 16 years ago, which was kinda why we picked him. He kept reaching his little feet though the cage and yelling at us accross the room.

He wasn't pretty, he was awkward. With huge ears and too long limbs, and a coat that was uneven and kind of like ostrich feathers-sticking out at odd angles. Who knows what had happened to his face.

A broken front fang and all his whiskers missing. Once we got to know him we figured he probably stuck his noggin in a transformer or something-he liked putting his face where a face should never go.

The whiskers came back, and the broken tooth was replaced with a big, shiny adult fang within months. And he became beautiful, although his summer coat was to remain a little awkward throughout his life and his ears stayed on the big side He was mostly white with tan cow-spots and had a bright pink nose and feetpads and the longest, most luxurious frond of a ridiculous tail ever.

Was he sweet? Not really. He liked me ok though-or seemed to anyway, and he loooved my h. He frightened most other people. He bit strange hands to the point of bleeding-even when they were trying to feed him turkey, and one of my friends needed an escort to our bathroom, in order to feel safe enough to pass through the hallway with him staring her down.

He was a natural talker, in a big way. So much so that, all subsequent kitties (he was our first) became talkative in our household in order to get their share of attention.

He's gone now. As of today. And even after witnessing his struggle this last while-i'm crushed. So glad he's at rest, devastated at his absence.

H and I were up till all hours talking about our little friend and the time in our lives when we got him. Who we were then and are now. So much has changed within and around us. And maybe I mourn the constancy of Roo's girly little pink nose-nestled among his fur and non-specific anger-because without it-i have to wonder who I am a little.

He was my grumpy little friend and I loved him. And I really hope he liked it here with us. I hope I was a friend to him and understood him and his needs as well as he seemed to understand mine. I hope my h is ok.

This cat (a birthday gift for ME who promptly bonded so deeply with my h that we just decided I was gonna need my own damn cat) was his daddy's boy from day 1. I've been holding it together the best I could for both of them during this struggle. H was AWESOME when we lost Roo's little sistercat 2 yrs back. She shared the deep bond with me and he (h) managed that situation so beautifully during a horrible time in our lives- and now I guess I'm collapsing just a little. I hope I did ok with all this. I hope I gave support to Roo and h without being too pushy-and I really really hope that Roo is glad to be at rest.

Thanks for reading if you did, I just have really been playing it cool to keep my vibe from freaking out that sick kitty and his man-father-and all the sadness has caught up.

Feels good to relax and exhale-feels horrible to face the incomplete menagerie in the house.

JustAShadow posted 5/3/2013 16:20 PM

Roo sounds like he was a lovely, grumpy curmudgeon! (and I mean that in the best possible way). What a character! :)

and one of my friends needed an escort to our bathroom, in order to feel safe enough to pass through the hallway with him staring her down.

I can picture this and it just makes me giggle (along with the competing talking kitties).

Hugs to you and I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure Roo loved being part of your family.

PippaPeach6 posted 5/3/2013 16:58 PM

RIP, Roo.

nowiknow23 posted 5/3/2013 17:07 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your post is a fantastic tribute to Roo. (((((thisissogross)))))

jo2love posted 5/3/2013 17:52 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. (((This)))

thisissogross posted 5/3/2013 17:58 PM

Thanks so much guys, really, thank you all.

metamorphisis posted 5/3/2013 18:34 PM

Well as I sit here crying I offer you a hug and some understanding. Such a beautiful tribute to your awesome friend

thisissogross posted 5/3/2013 22:05 PM

Thanks Meta, didn't mean to make anybody cry. I so appreciate everyone's kind words

FaithFool posted 5/4/2013 00:19 AM

Hugs. It's so hard letting them go.

kajsa posted 5/4/2013 09:17 AM

Dear thisissogross, I am so very, very sorry. We lost one of our dogs 4 weeks ago, and the Rescue we had adopted her from sent us a beautiful card:

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.

Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.

We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan."

Wish I could give you a great big hug.

thisissogross posted 5/4/2013 11:15 AM

Thanks again everyone-kajsa, that is beautiful! Thanks for sharing that with me.

cinnamongurl posted 5/4/2013 12:03 PM

Sooo sorry for the loss of your dear friend! We had a similar kitty whom we lost last summer. She was a tiny little ball of fire. All grey and hated visitors, some of our friends used to call her "pet sematary kitty", but she loved BSO and myself and was our family. She was 15.

It's so difficult to lose such a present and constant force in the household. They become such a part of us with their little shenanigans and their huge personalities. It leaves a huge void in our hearts and lives. Roo had a second chance at life when you
chose him, and he lived the hell out of it! He was one lucky boy!

Though its terribly sad and difficult, with time comes healing and the comfort of knowing that he shared your lives through good and bad, and though a bit grumpy, he loved and was loved unconditionally.

Again so sorry thisissogross! Hugs!

thisissogross posted 5/4/2013 13:25 PM

Thanks so much cinnamongurl. I am so touched at all of the responses I've received here. People taking time to share their own losses and joys. This board has the most amazing members and I'm surprised again and again at some of what transpires here. Thank you all so much for your kindness and support.

somanyyears posted 5/4/2013 13:40 PM


..your story is so touching..

..the bond we share with our pets is so very special.

..i have one of our 3 cats curled up on my lap as i'm typing this post.

..God please help us when the time comes to say goodbye to our furbabies.. will leave a huge hole in our lives..

Roo is no doubt, at peace and i'm sure, thanks you both for the long life you shared with him..

take care..


thisissogross posted 5/4/2013 16:31 PM

Thanks smy. Roo did have a long life and that is certainly some comfort

willow60 posted 5/5/2013 08:58 AM


Just read your beautiful tribute to Roo.

Anyone who has loved a pet can understand your loss.


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