The next step is to realize that everything that you're feeling numbness, rage, sorrow, hatred, anguish, love, is all normal. Your WH, without your consent, bought you a ticket to the rollercoaster of hell, strapped you in, and sent you down the track. Hell of a gift, isn't it...
And yes, cybersex is cheating. It's infidelity. It's giving someone else the intimacy that belongs to you alone. Don't let anyone tell you that because there doesn't seem to be penetration, that it's not cheating. It is.
And with as much caring as I can send to you, don't be surprised if its more than you've been told. It is so extremely rare as to be all but non-existant, for a WS to tell the complete truth at first. There is bound to be more, so please be aware.
Here's the thing. You don't have to make One Stinking Decision right now. Read The Healing Library. Read any post on this forum that has a bulls-eye next to it. Detatch a bit. Think about what YOU want and what would make you inclined to consider staying. IC and MC are all to the good so I encourage you to go, but what's important is what YOU want and need right now.
Please come back often for support. We're going into the weekend and it can get slow here, so please don't be discouraged if it seems like there's not a lot of people "talking" to you. We are all here for you. (((hugs)))