Using Safari I presume on IPOD, here's what Apple says to about private browsing:
When you browse the web, Safari stores information about the websites you visit...If you browse the web on a Mac that’s also used by other people, they can view your browsing behavior by reading the history list or the list of stored passwords. To prevent others from gaining access to this information, use Private Browsing.
To turn on private browsing do the following:
1. While browsing a webpage using Safari, choose Safari > Private Browsing.
2. When you see a confirmation message, click OK. A Private button appears in the address field to indicate that private browsing is on. To skip the confirmation message, hold down the Option key while you choose Private Browsing.
Private Browsing is always turned off when you open Safari, even if it was on when you last quit Safari.
You will have to turn private browsing on every time.
Also, delete history on IPOD just to be sure.
Settings->Safari
Use the two choices to "Clear History" and "Clear Cookies & Data".
On the A,
Sounds like
(1) He isn't remorseful for what's he done.
(2) He's had an affair with more than one person.
(3) He's paranoid because he's been cheating.
(4) He's been projecting his guilt onto you.
(5) Completely rug-sweeping.
(6) Wants you to do all the work.
(7) He is lying about having to keep subordinates happy, not to the degree of the texting anyways. If she was that depressed the SOP would be to contact the chaplain. I say he was fuckin' her too.
(8) Who was the naked girl? Probably an AP.
(9) You gut telling you he's a sex addict is probably correct. Dig deeper.
(10) Why does a married man have a POF account? Heck I had to look that up just to know what it is. That screams multiple partners.
(11) Why is he sleeping in the basesment? I wouldn't allow him to be in the same building with me. Not until conditions were met. When the WS cheats, they lose the "unconditional" love everyone so wants. What they get is "conditional" love. Hate to say it, but that's what he gets for as long as you think necessary.
(12) He's not telling you everything. You're getting TT (trickle-truth).
(13) The pouting is a passive/agressive thing and that is why he needs to be separated from you for a while before you start R/D/S---my opinion. He's manipulating you. You'll probably need to separate (S) for a while so you can figure out how you want to deal with it.
(14) You need to get complete access to his emails/cell phone...everything.
(15) Contact a lawyer. Not saying to do anything yet. Just discuss and get your legal options consult before you decide to R/D/S.
As others have mentioned on this site, cheaters lie, so he's probably lying about number of times, number of partners, for how long etc. Whether you want to know and pursue is up to you.
Keep posting, and looking on here. Plenty of support.
Hang in there.
[This message edited by la433 at 9:17 AM, May 11th (Saturday)]