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careerlady posted 5/4/2013 01:25 AM

I''m beside myself typing from the ICU. The baby fell out of the bed when I went to go rinse my burning eye out real quick, and after a few minutes of crying he HAD A SEIZURE. I called 911 and they took forever to come, he was out of it for like 20 minutes after a 3 minutes seizure. He ended up getting a CT scan than showed blood on the brain (subdural hematoma). Fortunately he doesn''t need surgery but as part of the work up he got his eyes checked and he has retinal hemorrhages!

so now they think he was SHAKEN and CPS and a forensic pediatrician will be getting involved!!! It''s pretty much just me, hubby and the nanny caring for him and I can''t imagine either of them doing anything like it must be a mistake. Even though WS has made mistakes I''d still blame the nanny before him, he''s been nothing but a gentle doting dad

Everything is messed up right now. I filed for divorce yesterday and was going to have WS served Monday but I can''t do that now. We''re both worried sick and he''s been wonderful. Plus he''ll for sure challenge my full custody after this mistake...

Anyway prayers please!

[This message edited by careerlady at 1:26 AM, May 4th, 2013 (Saturday)]

5454real posted 5/4/2013 01:30 AM

I am so sorry. Strength, prayers, whatever I've got that you need is on the way!

Jrazz posted 5/4/2013 01:41 AM

Sending prays for that sweet boy.

Coraline posted 5/4/2013 01:52 AM

Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I know this is a nightmare, but it's really just bad luck if all of that is from a fall from the bed. Almost everyone will have a baby fall off the bed at some point or another, and rarely so they get seriously injured. Yes, it's terrible that he got hurt so badly, but falling off the bed is not a reflection on your parenting or a reason you should lose custody of your child. It happens every day.

careerlady posted 5/4/2013 02:28 AM

Thanks. WH and I were cuddling at his bedside until he left to get stuff from home for us. Now I'm so conflicted as to whether to serve this man....

Take2 posted 5/4/2013 05:06 AM

How horrible and overwhelming! Prayers being sent for your precious boy!

Whenever anything medical comes up I always go to the web, (knowledge is power). Sending you a pm if you are interested.

((careerlady)) and more prayers.

eta: putting off serving him isn't unreasonable under the circumstances. One crisis at a time.

[This message edited by Take2 at 5:37 AM, May 4th (Saturday)]

macakipa posted 5/4/2013 06:32 AM

Oh careerlady, I am so sorry! Prayers and strength coming your way. (((hugs)))

tesla posted 5/4/2013 06:53 AM

((((((careerlady))))))

million pieces posted 5/4/2013 07:01 AM

First of all hugs to you and your baby.

I would absolutely hold off serving him. This may get very legally complicated for a while and you don't need any distractions right now. As a former pediatric health care worker, if there is even a suspicion of abuse they will tear apart your life to see if there is anything that could have lead to this.

AussieMum posted 5/4/2013 07:03 AM

Sending you strength! Hope your little one is doing better very soon.

Put all the rest to the back of your mind right now and focus on your little man.

Thinking of you careerlady!

foxglove posted 5/4/2013 07:16 AM

(((careerlady)))

I'm so sorry. Sending lots of strength and good thoughts your way.

newlysingle posted 5/4/2013 10:20 AM

Oh my goodness. Prayers going out for your sweet boy. I'm so sorry that this has happened. I have a 7 month old DS and he rolled off the couch the other day and hit his head on the coffee table. Fortunately, he only cried for a few seconds so I knew he was okay. I think it scared him more than anything, but of course this stuff has happened to all of us mothers at one time or another. It's just so rare for them to be hurt so badly.

Do they think they he had some type of trauma before rolling off the bed? Is that why they are contacting CPS? I'm so, so sorry. Glad to know that your WS is at least there for you right now.

Holly-Isis posted 5/4/2013 10:23 AM

I'm so sorry- what a scary situation.

They're saying the fall doesn't explain his injuries? Is there any way the most current OW has been around baby?

million pieces posted 5/4/2013 10:57 AM

And feel free to PM me, my cousin went through a similar situation a couple of years ago. It all turned out well, but it was an awful couple of weeks.

Again, hope your son is doing well and try, try to remember everyone is doing their best for your son.

jo2love posted 5/4/2013 11:05 AM

(((career & baby)))

I'm sorry. Sending prayers.

Foolme1 posted 5/4/2013 11:46 AM

(((careerlady)))

nowiknow23 posted 5/4/2013 12:33 PM

((((baby boy))))

little turtle posted 5/4/2013 12:35 PM

Prayers for your baby.

CheaterMagnet posted 5/4/2013 14:11 PM

(((((((HUGS))))))))

iwantamiracle posted 5/4/2013 14:44 PM

((((careerlady and baby)))))

sending thoughts, prayers and mojo your way

def put off serving him now....even if you decide you still want to, now is not the time...as someone else said...one crisis at a time if you can help it

concentrate on your precious child....

and i am sure cps will get to bottom of whatever has or has not happened...don 't think about that right now...just concentrate on the baby and his getting well....and cooperate with whatever info they need...

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