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careerlady (original poster member #16958) posted at 7:25 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
I''m beside myself typing from the ICU. The baby fell out of the bed when I went to go rinse my burning eye out real quick, and after a few minutes of crying he HAD A SEIZURE. I called 911 and they took forever to come, he was out of it for like 20 minutes after a 3 minutes seizure. He ended up getting a CT scan than showed blood on the brain (subdural hematoma). Fortunately he doesn''t need surgery but as part of the work up he got his eyes checked and he has retinal hemorrhages!
so now they think he was SHAKEN and CPS and a forensic pediatrician will be getting involved!!! It''s pretty much just me, hubby and the nanny caring for him and I can''t imagine either of them doing anything like it must be a mistake. Even though WS has made mistakes I''d still blame the nanny before him, he''s been nothing but a gentle doting dad
Everything is messed up right now. I filed for divorce yesterday and was going to have WS served Monday but I can''t do that now. We''re both worried sick and he''s been wonderful. Plus he''ll for sure challenge my full custody after this mistake...
Anyway prayers please!
[This message edited by careerlady at 1:26 AM, May 4th, 2013 (Saturday)]
Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 7:30 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
I am so sorry. Strength, prayers, whatever I've got that you need is on the way!
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 7:41 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Sending prays for that sweet boy. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 7:52 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I know this is a nightmare, but it's really just bad luck if all of that is from a fall from the bed. Almost everyone will have a baby fall off the bed at some point or another, and rarely so they get seriously injured. Yes, it's terrible that he got hurt so badly, but falling off the bed is not a reflection on your parenting or a reason you should lose custody of your child. It happens every day.
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
careerlady (original poster member #16958) posted at 8:28 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Thanks. WH and I were cuddling at his bedside until he left to get stuff from home for us. Now I'm so conflicted as to whether to serve this man....
Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 11:06 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
How horrible and overwhelming! Prayers being sent for your precious boy!
Whenever anything medical comes up I always go to the web, (knowledge is power). Sending you a pm if you are interested.
((careerlady)) and more prayers.
eta: putting off serving him isn't unreasonable under the circumstances. One crisis at a time.
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"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
macakipa ( member #33735) posted at 12:32 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Oh careerlady, I am so sorry! Prayers and strength coming your way. (((hugs)))
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 12:53 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 1:01 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
First of all hugs to you and your baby.
I would absolutely hold off serving him. This may get very legally complicated for a while and you don't need any distractions right now. As a former pediatric health care worker, if there is even a suspicion of abuse they will tear apart your life to see if there is anything that could have lead to this.
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 1:03 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Sending you strength! Hope your little one is doing better very soon.
Put all the rest to the back of your mind right now and focus on your little man.
Thinking of you careerlady!
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
foxglove ( member #21791) posted at 1:16 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
(((careerlady)))
I'm so sorry. Sending lots of strength and good thoughts your way.
Me (BS) 57
XH (WS)
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two grown sons
Remarried 9/18
newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 4:20 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Oh my goodness. Prayers going out for your sweet boy. I'm so sorry that this has happened. I have a 7 month old DS and he rolled off the couch the other day and hit his head on the coffee table. Fortunately, he only cried for a few seconds so I knew he was okay. I think it scared him more than anything, but of course this stuff has happened to all of us mothers at one time or another. It's just so rare for them to be hurt so badly.
Do they think they he had some type of trauma before rolling off the bed? Is that why they are contacting CPS? I'm so, so sorry. Glad to know that your WS is at least there for you right now.
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 4:23 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
I'm so sorry- what a scary situation.
They're saying the fall doesn't explain his injuries? Is there any way the most current OW has been around baby?
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
million pieces ( member #27539) posted at 4:57 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
And feel free to PM me, my cousin went through a similar situation a couple of years ago. It all turned out well, but it was an awful couple of weeks.
Again, hope your son is doing well and try, try to remember everyone is doing their best for your son.
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:05 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
(((career & baby)))
I'm sorry. Sending prayers.
Foolme1 ( member #38606) posted at 5:46 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
He cheated. I divorced him. He apologized, I took him back, only to have him cheat again. I could not be more done. The love is gone.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:33 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:35 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
Failure is success if we learn from it.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 8:11 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
iwantamiracle ( member #22812) posted at 8:44 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
((((careerlady and baby)))))
sending thoughts, prayers and mojo your way
def put off serving him now....even if you decide you still want to, now is not the time...as someone else said...one crisis at a time if you can help it
concentrate on your precious child....
and i am sure cps will get to bottom of whatever has or has not happened...don 't think about that right now...just concentrate on the baby and his getting well....and cooperate with whatever info they need...
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I am happy and I am at peace!
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