[This message edited by Tripletrouble at 5:58 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]
All of the above was conducted in a calm, quiet tone. No drama. A few tears shed by me, but that was it.
On Boxing day 2011 I found texts on his phone - 4 over a space of 20 or so minutes - the "I love you" and "I miss you" type. He was in the shower and he deleted texts as soon as he read them. I knew who the woman was and truly she is hideous and a nut job. I presumed an EA as a PA seemed absolutely improbable.
After I confronted him - we discussed the relationship - he denied EA/PA saying she was lonely, needy and in a bad/abusive sexless marriage (textbook 101 for the cheater).
I believed him and he agreed he had gone a bit over the top trying to support her and he would pull back. (February I found out that hadn't happened - but he agreed to start then).
I watched! I checked emails and in May found even more lies - but nothing to indicate a PA but an email that alluded to something inappropriate.
I confronted - implied I had more info than I did and he confessed. A single event with her (mOW #1) and some light petting with another colleague a couple of times.
The next day the single event with mOW#1 became an almost 3 year affair.
TT on the details - the colleague (mOW #2) became of 1-2 months of heavy petting.
11 month TT - "oh yeah" there was a single incident of inappropriate touching with another woman (OW#3).
11.2 months TT - "oh yeah" mOW#2 was 2-4 months oral sex
So confrontation was only the beginning - who knows if there is more!
[This message edited by avicarswife at 6:12 PM, May 5th (Sunday)]
I had never before in my life ever been violent with anyone.
It was horrible.
BTW, how do you guys get the deleted texts? Once ours are deleted they are no longer on the phone anywhere. We have same phone so I have searched my own.
[This message edited by Jada52 at 1:59 PM, May 6th (Monday)]