Protracted and tortuous are the only way I can describe them.
On Boxing day 2011 I found texts on his phone - 4 over a space of 20 or so minutes - the "I love you" and "I miss you" type. He was in the shower and he deleted texts as soon as he read them. I knew who the woman was and truly she is hideous and a nut job. I presumed an EA as a PA seemed absolutely improbable.
After I confronted him - we discussed the relationship - he denied EA/PA saying she was lonely, needy and in a bad/abusive sexless marriage (textbook 101 for the cheater).
I believed him and he agreed he had gone a bit over the top trying to support her and he would pull back. (February I found out that hadn't happened - but he agreed to start then).
I watched! I checked emails and in May found even more lies - but nothing to indicate a PA but an email that alluded to something inappropriate.
I confronted - implied I had more info than I did and he confessed. A single event with her (mOW #1) and some light petting with another colleague a couple of times.
The next day the single event with mOW#1 became an almost 3 year affair.
TT on the details - the colleague (mOW #2) became of 1-2 months of heavy petting.
11 month TT - "oh yeah" there was a single incident of inappropriate touching with another woman (OW#3).
11.2 months TT - "oh yeah" mOW#2 was 2-4 months oral sex
So confrontation was only the beginning - who knows if there is more!
[This message edited by avicarswife at 6:12 PM, May 5th (Sunday)]