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What kind of R is this? Should I end it?

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 BrokenT (original poster new member #39056) posted at 10:32 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013

My WH and I talked about R a few days ago. He sent me an email, we sat down and talked, he even wrote notes of what he would do during R. He's not good with words (or it's what he says)

I'm regretting saying yes to R. He's like this piece of sh#t watching tv, reading, doing nothing for me, not even talking. I keep thinking he'll come now and talk, he'll email me, maybe he left a note. Are words so fu##ing difficult for him???!!!

I don't know what to do I'm posting this cuz I'm pissed off I really really am. Should I end R? Do BSs choose to end R for this silent stupid H or not? I'm tired. I'm alone ALL the time. I'm reading, studying, sleeping, just trying to pass the time, hoping he comes but he fu##ing won't.

Please tell me what to do.

[This message edited by BrokenT at 4:34 PM, May 4th (Saturday)]

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 10:54 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013

What did you talk about a few days ago? Was anything about how you'd reconnect or get connected discussed? Have you told him how alone you feel?

Right now he doesn't need to be good with words, his actions have to show you he is in R. Has anything he's actually done shown you this?

You should not have to be happy with crumbs.

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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mad2

 BrokenT (original poster new member #39056) posted at 11:01 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013

He showed regret, said couldn't live without me, said he'd do whatever it takes, answered more questions I had about A and asked if I had more, promised to show more love and affection, I asked him never to leave me alone (I isolate myself in my bedroom these days, or take off with the car, almost having an accident every 2 minutes until I pull over to CRY) he assured me it was never going to happen. He said he'll get over his emotions for me he'll spend more time with me at home and take me out on dates bla bla bla bla...

And he's been sitting outside and I'm he the entire time!! He says good morning, good afternoon, u wanna read outside, u wanna eat together, if I say no or don't even answer he walks away, so simple. I feel I'm the WS!!!!!!

I can't take this sh#t anymore.

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catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 11:12 PM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013

Sorry Broken T-- that is so frustrating!

Are you in MC? That and/or just move on and perhaps he'll get a clue. Actions, not words!!

Good luck.

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