I was in school when we first separated, in the fall of 2005. It was hell trying to concentrate, but I tried and I graduated with honors.
After that, getting adjusted to my new job was pretty overwhelming.
As soon as I started calming down from the new job, I tore into making improvements to the marital home. At the time, I think I thought I was stuck there, so I started changing things and making updates. I remodeled two bathrooms, put in new windows, replaced the roof and the wood siding. I ripped out all the old overgrown and outdated landscaping and hired a landscape architect to design new beds for me. Then, I bought the plants and did the installation myself. That was a life changing experience for me.
After I got done with all that, I went to a Parade of Homes in my area and, as I was touring one of the homes, I kind of snapped emotionally. I had this epiphany that I simply had to get out of that house and into a new home. So, I embarked on the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I sold the marital home, put all my stuff in storage, moved in with my mother, and signed a contract to have a beautiful new home built. It took me from July 1, 2009 to March 16, 2010 to go through the entire process, but I did it. Moving into my new home was a huge turning point for me. I filed for divorce in August of that year and the divorce was final in March 2012.