Jrazz, i'm on the same page as you already.
She had a lengthy discussion tonight with the friend (who now knows of the affair). Because of this conversation, she is triggering and raging pretty bad tonight. She asked for space and that is what I am giving her. I did ask if she would discuss more in the morning and discuss me apologizing to our friend. I mostly want to make sure she is ok with it.
What defines us is how well we rise after falling.