I wanted to share some hope with those new or struggling with reconciliation.
My H and I have ups and downs, good and bad days. But in the end, I know in my heart we made the right decision.
We laugh, plan for the future, compromise and love each other.
My H's affairs (yes it is plural) brought me to my knees , but we never gave up.
So on those days where you want to give up , think about what is really important and stop sweating the small stuff. Small stuff was there before the cheating, it will be there after. It is how you deal with it that matters.
We have reasonable expectations and usually we far exceed them. Always a pleasant surprise.