He was only five months out from D, he was blindsided, when we met. I knew there was a risk, for both of us, even though I was a year ahead of him in the process.
I felt him pulling away a bit in the past few weeks, and I finally told him that we needed to talk about us. I think I avoided it as much as he did at first because we both knew what this talk would mean.
It was easy to avoid because he has 50/50 custody, week on, week off, so we weren't constantly together.
He's going to IC soon, which is good. We talked about alternatives, like non-exclusive dating, and I didn't rule anything out in the future, but I told him we just needed to work on ourselves and our own lives for a while. We need to move on. And, as I told him, I can't do the friend thing right now, I'd end up being his therapist, lol.
But I know I have to focus on what's best for me, and although it hurts, this is the first step.
He's a good guy, honest, conscientious, giving, but the timing was just off. Or was it? There's a reason people come into our lives, and endings are hard, but I don't regret our relationship.
He met some of you at the SI g2g in Houston, we had a great time.
I know I will be okay, but just need a little time to grieve it and move forward. I haven't even called my best friend - this was the first place I thought of after he left. Thanks to all of you for all of your support.
Status: D 2011
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Maybe I will lose a little of the weight I put back on since Dday, lol. It's the best part of a breakup.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
This is one of my favourite quotes:
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Take care of yourself...
I even sent him a baggage reclaim article tonight that was right on point about both of us, but I know I need to go NC and "Step away from the SEND button".
I think I may need to just not date for a while. Learn to understand the concept of "being happy with just me" - I don't think I've ever really understood the concept.
The "happy with just me" is a tough one to really get on a core level. It's important though, and oh so good when you get there. And relationships are so much more fulfilling after getting there.
I'm really sorry. I hope you can feel better with the decision in time.