The past week has been up and down, but more up than things have been. WW has been doing well and working hard on R, especially considering all the other crap we have on our plate right now. The OM wife that had been causing problems, making threats, has left us alone since I filed a police report.
But today was bad, she texted again, sounds like he finally admitted it was true (which is good) , she said that WW needs to get tested though. She told us she has hpv(cancer causing strain) and om knew also. On top of that she told ww to be watching over her shoulder because she won't be as civil as I.
All the feelings of anger for all the om, the feelings of revenge, the want to, if nothing else, tell them exactly what peice of dirty trash they really are, today they are ready, and I will start with this posom. I don't plan to knock his teeth in, I will merely use words and a 1 finger gesture, but if I need to defend myself I'd be happy to do so truthfully. Until today I havnt really wanted todon't nfront anwon't f them. He called me once about a week ago and threatened me, OM threatened me!!! Told me to call him a liar to his face, and that he will show me what a 'real man is'. I called him a liar, mocked him, and he hung up.
Well I'm ready to call him a liar to his face, is this a healthy decision as long as I don't plan to be violent or physical? I feel like I would feel better, I would have faced him and told him what I think of him, but it could end badly. They don't seem to be rational people at all.
On top of all that and financial problems, I'm leaving in a few days to go 16 hours away to work for 2 weeks(to help finacial problems). It's been about 2 months since dday, so needless to say I don't really trust ww. I honestly don't think she will do anything, she and ds are staying with grandma while I'm gone, she set it up to give me some eyes I trust (i trust gma, she knows about whats going on as well) and some peace of mind. also suggested i put the spysoftware back on her phone so i could know. She is trying hard, she is remorseful, she does want me and me only, and she truly hates herself for what she has done. I suggested she post here on si(she reads a lot here), after finding out she may be getting cancer because of what she has done, she asked me if I was going to leave her if she did get cancer. I wouldnt, why would i? if i left her it would be because she gave me 1 more reason to like cheating .She said she will hate herself so much more if she has it and I understand why, but hating herself won't really help anything.
She did this, but she doesn't deserve cancer. I'm worried and hope she doesn't have that hpv so bad. but they had oral many times and unprotected sex twice so there is a definite possibility. Maybe omw is lying to stir more drama? The test will tell. Me leaving town right now is hard but I think(and hope) that it will be good for our relationship. In the 8 years we have been together we have not spent more than 11 days(recent separation) apart so it is somewhat dificult especially in these ciecumstances, but it may help us grow stronger. Screw infidelity.