On Easter Sunday, the AP BW reached out and started harassing me via text. I requested that she stop contacting me. She contacted me a few more times that evening and I ignored. The Tuesday following that, I received another text, with a veiled threat regarding the release of a NSFW picture she has of me. I ignored that text as well.
Well, sure enough this Saturday I got another one, with another taunting type of message. I need this to stop. She is ignoring my requests, while I have honored hers. All it does is reopen the wound and take me right back to square 1 and keeps him present in my mind.
I have considered writing her an email, with copies of the texts, and cc'ing my former AP and requesting that the texts stop immediately. She has also been emailing my BH and he has been deleting those recently. Is that enough, or do you think I should contact an attorney with a cease and desist letter.
I am empathetic to the pain I have caused a lot of people in this, and I know she is hurting and lashing out, but this isn't helping her either.
Thoughts on how to best handle this?
Status - Divorcing
You can think about getting a lawyer involved. If you want to take it that far.
Maybe you should try to find out what she is looking for and give it to her with as much kindness as possible?
[This message edited by knightsbff at 10:15 AM, May 6th (Monday)]
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
These texts are just her pain manifesting themselves, and no doubt trying to hurt me, and cause me pain as I have done to her. As I said, I have been trying to be understanding, but when you start threatening an action that could affect the custody of my child, it is enough.
I would prefer not to get a lawyer involved, but asking her directly has not stopped her, and I know that the AP doesn't know she is doing this. I figured by pulling him in, it might help. I am sure this isn't good for their efforts at reconciliation either.
But at this point, it isn't doing anybody any good to keep in contact with me for this reason.
[This message edited by WWMEH13 at 10:18 AM, May 6th (Monday)]
or am i missing something...
It is understandable that she is angry and hurt. However DONOT CC the AP. Cease all communication with him whatsoever.
Talk to the police and start filing reports. That is your only out.