I don't know if he affaired down from himself though...in my mind, I might have married down. Harsh but true.
In my case I would say he A'd down because even though she was wealthy, and good looking and had a nice little trust fund, she was a sick manipulative individual who was happy to cheat on her spouse over and over and over. She was a WACK Job.
If you haven't already you may consider approaching this OW's betrayed husband. If he doesn't know of the A he should probably be told. Just something to think about.
Course he "chose" her because she made herself available. Said he wouldn't have dated her if he was single and if he had gone out looking felt like he could have done better. She was convenient.
Until the "crazy" came out to play, then there was years of hell to pay.
Oh well, you play, you pay!
Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:42 PM, May 10th (Friday)]
In my sitch...
The man that had the EA with his drug-addicted, mentally ill, uneducated, low-class, tattooed whore is not the man I married NOR a man who is in my league. Anyone who found that appealing, would not be in my sight line for a date let alone a relationship. As I explained to H. You meet a woman - she's attractive, and funny - then you learn she used to fuck goats. Would you pursue her? He laughed and replied no. I said - COW is a goat in my eyes - she is sooo far beneath me - so how can I respect you? Theres obviously something very wrong with YOU that you wanted to risk US for that broken piece of shit. If he had remained that man - I would've hightailed it out of here. But that broken creature is gone and no one else is going to have the man my H has become.
So yes - MOW affaired down as did your WH. Hopefully, he's becoming the man who deserves to be with a loving woman like you!!!