Topic: My heart is full - adoption day
Member # 33226
| Posted: 6:47 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
It's here! Today is the day my sister's adoption is finalized, and we officially welcome two beautiful, fierce, crazy smart, adventuresome boys to our family.
It's been two years since my sister decided that she wanted her life to be "more" than it was, and set out on a path to be a foster parent. She wanted to make a safe place in the world for kids who had none. She set out to foster and left open the possibility that she would consider adoption, although that was not her primary goal.
And then these two brothers entered her world. Two brothers who had seen and experienced too much in their lives at the tender ages of 10 and 8.
And an amazing thing happened. A family was born. The boys blossomed, thriving on stability, consistency, and unconditional love. And my sister blossomed as well, and over time she went from parenting them to being their mom.
Today that family becomes official, and my heart is overflowing. So much love.
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 28301 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 20563
| Posted: 6:49 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Need a happy tears like button.
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Posts: 6869 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Member # 26651
| Posted: 7:00 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
YAY!!! That's great, NIK
(((Entire NIK Family)))
Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/34 The kidlets: DS14, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25
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Member # 36711
| Posted: 7:09 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 14866
| Posted: 7:29 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
That is too awesome, NIK. Congratulations to your sister and the entire family.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
Posts: 53981 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 34602
| Posted: 8:09 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 17 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Posts: 1759 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Member # 30024
| Posted: 8:20 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
What Pentup said.
So happy for everyone!
BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 10497 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 25001
| Posted: 8:28 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
YAY! This is wonderful news! I love hearing stories like this. Those boys are lucky to have your sister for their mother and they are lucky to have found a loving family.
Congratulations to those boys, your sister, and your family!
Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)
Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 32810
| Posted: 8:35 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Happy Gotcha Day!
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
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Member # 12041
| Posted: 9:19 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin
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Member # 19785
| Posted: 9:21 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
I specifically switched from my phone to my desktop just to reply to this thread :) So many many congratulations!
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
Posts: 917 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
Member # 3031
| Posted: 9:51 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
Posts: 21881 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
Member # 28053
| Posted: 10:23 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
This is so amazing.
Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
Posts: 5446 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
Member # 19258
| Posted: 10:30 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8720 | Registered: Apr 2008
Member # 9742
| Posted: 10:33 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
To your sister and you and your family!
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.
Posts: 2839 | Registered: Feb 2006
Member # 16305
| Posted: 10:34 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Im not sure there is a on spot descriptive word but I will go with awesome (tho its more than awesome) congrats to you and your family
People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing
Finally fealing peace.
Posts: 8798 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 31528
| Posted: 11:47 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Congrats!!! That is wonderful!!!
Posts: 38288 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 7276
| Posted: 11:49 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
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Posts: 14414 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 31349
| Posted: 1:24 PM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
I got tingles reading your post. Those boys are so blessed to have your sister for a mamma, and likewise I'm sure!!
AND you for an auntie!!
[This message edited by Jrazz at 1:24 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]
"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron
Posts: 20883 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 33128
| Posted: 1:42 PM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013|
Oh that fills my heart with joy. There are so many little ones that see to much and never get the love that a child needs.
I am so happy for your sister and her new son's. MY HEART SCREAMS FOR JOY!
Bless the new family.
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
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