My BS has not asked for the testing. In fact, he has no idea I am even considering it. I know what his issues and questions are, as he has asked the same ones over and over and over. Each time he questions me,I provide answers and each time he either tells me I am lying, misconstrues my responses or hears something other than what I’ve actually said. I think he is so blinded by hurt that he is not capable of listening to me - even though he solicits the information.
Among the many other issues, a big bone of contention for him is the actual tenure of the A. He swears it has been going on for years. The trut is it lasted approximately 2.5 months- at the most, but probably not even that long.
Another bone for him is that he thinks over the course of nearly 20 years together, there have been multiple affairs and he wonders, as he puts it,“how long he has been a fool.” The truth is this is the only one.
Lastly, seeing as though he thinks I’ve always been wayward, he believes I have slept with many, many people. The truth is, including my 1 affair, I have only slept with 6 men in my entire life. This is in part because I married really young the first time and did not do a lot of dating.
So, I would like to put these issues/questions to rest. I had an affair. I am not a slut and I really need him to stop seeing me as such. Again, there are many other issues, that I don’t think a polygraph will be able to address, but I think clarity on the aforementioned issues is needed, if not for him, for me because I need him to know exactly what it is I did and did not do.