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User Topic: Something Good
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excuse me while I celebrate a good thing. (I've been talking about the bad enough eh?)

I took another step forward today. I reached out. I've made many friends here at SI and everyone always says, "Call me anytime. Just let me know if I can do anything." And I really, really do appreciate the kindness shown to me. The people here are incredible. However, I haven't ever really taken anyone up on the offer.

I have retracted alot since Dday. Turned inward. Being a mouthy, extroverted, non-boundary exercising individual is what brought me here. I have tried to be really careful about sharing too much or being too friendly with people. I don't want to rely on external validation and don't always trust myself with knowing when enough is enough.

Plus (And you've heard this before) I have struggled with being a friend. All my previous friendships (Yes, every single one of them.) are over. They were all toxic. I don't really know how to be a healthy friend. And I feel incredibly awkward.

So anyway, I stuffed my nerves and picked up the phone to call this girl. We spoke for 30 minutes. I can't express how awesome it was to talk to a real live human being, a girl, a friend. Half an hour. That's all it was. We had a really nice time. A good conversation. It was pretty cool.

I finally decided to believe someone who said, "Its ok, call me anytime." and trust they meant it. I acted upon it. And it ended up being really nice.

So thank you Friend. I appreciate it.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7062 | Registered: Nov 2011
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome, Aubrie!

Turned inward. Being a mouthy, extroverted, non-boundary exercising individual is what brought me here. I have tried to be really careful about sharing too much or being too friendly with people. I don't want to rely on external validation and don't always trust myself with knowing when enough is enough.

Plus (And you've heard this before) I have struggled with being a friend. All my previous friendships (Yes, every single one of them.) are over. They were all toxic. I don't really know how to be a healthy friend. And I feel incredibly awkward.

I did that, too. And then we moved and so I really had no friends.

I am just starting to cultivate new friendships (well, for about a year), but this time with healthy boundaries in place, and it feels good.


When we deny the story, it defines us. When we own the story, we can write a brave new ending. Brene Brown

Posts: 43666 | Registered: Sep 2007
BaxtersBFF
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Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you Aubrie. And way to go SI friend of Aubrie!


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6103 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
gahurts
♂ 33699
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am learning that the friends I am making here are real and can be counted on. Please remember that!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3819 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie- YOU, my dear, are awesome!!!

I can assure you that your SI friend is just as lucky, just as blessed, to have your friendship as you are to have hers.


Posts: 1469 | Registered: Feb 2010
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, May 9th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please remember that!
Trying to! I think part of it is, I get hung up on the fact just about everyone here is trying to heal and deal with their own pain. What I forget is just as I reach thru my own towards others, everyone else here is doing the same. Kind of for me to lose sight of that, but I do.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 7062 | Registered: Nov 2011
knightsbff
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 23, 16, 11. 2 dogs.

I edit often to fix stuff ☺️

Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.


Posts: 1680 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Pudding
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done Aubrie

Wanted to say that may of your posts have helped me a lot over the past few months. Thank you


Posts: 281 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: UK
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Member # 34716
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, May 10th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Aubrie.
I still remember when you called JNRPA. And am still thankful for it.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1327 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
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