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MissesJai posted 5/10/2013 11:37 AM

I found this to be very timely. I hope this helps those of you that are struggling with past hurts. Be blessed...MJ

Many of us are going through our lives aware of a well of pain underlying our daily awareness that weíve felt for so long we arenít even sure where it comes from. It almost seems as if itís part of who we are, or the way we see the world, but itís important to realize that this pain is something that needs to be acknowledged and processed. The longer we sit on it, the harder it is to work through, and the more likely it is that we will be forced to acknowledge it as it makes itself known to us in ways we canít predict. Rather than waiting for this to happen, we can empower ourselves by identifying the pain and resolving to take action toward healing it.

The very thought of this brings up feelings of resistance in most of us, especially if, on the surface, our lives seem to be in order. Itís difficult to dig up the past and go into it unless we are being seriously inconvenienced by the hurt. The thing is, when we are carrying the burden of our unprocessed pain, sooner or later, it will inconvenience us. If we can be brave and proactive, we can save ourselves a lot of future suffering and free up the energy that is tied up in keeping the pain down.

There are many ways to do this, but the first step is to recognize the pain and honor it by moving our awareness into it. In this process, even if itís just five minutes during meditation, we will begin to have a sense of what the pain is made of. It might be fear of abandonment, childhood abuse, anger at being mistreated, or some other long held wound. As we sit with the pain, we will also have a sense of whether we can deal with it by ourselves, or not. It may be time to work with a counselor, or form a healing circle with close friends. Whatever path you choose, resolve to go deep into the pain, so that you can release it fully, and set yourself free. Remember, it is never too late in life to heal what hurts, and there is never a better time than now.

Aubrie posted 5/10/2013 12:20 PM

Thanks for this MJ.

I've just been lancing certain wounds. When they flare up to the point of discomfort, it's lanced to relieve pressure and make it go away. I don't need a lancing needle. I need a butcher knife, blow torch, and pressure washer.

The hardest thing for me is dealing with this alone. Finding peace alone. People that are attached to those wounds are in my life daily. But having a conversation with them is not an option.

Dealing with old stuff and actively preventing new stuff (constantly) at the same time. *sigh*

Anyway, thanks for this.

knightsbff posted 5/10/2013 13:33 PM

This is helpful to me too.

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