My BS asked me today how often do I think about getting in contact with OW.
It has been a year since DD and I have not been in contact other than shortly after DD I sent a message via mutual friend.
I said that it is about once a fortnight but I battle it off by saying 'She is not my friend and she is not a friend of the marriage'
BS believes that I should not be having these thoughts after a year. The thoughts are getting less frequent and don't have the same power behind them.
I haven't raised this in IC as we have had so much else to work through.
In your opinion, after a year from DD should I still be having these thoughts?