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scotslass posted 5/11/2013 09:04 AM

Hello

I just wanted to reach out and find if anyone else is using this website for communication with there exes.

We are court ordered by our divorce judge to use this.

hoya96 posted 5/11/2013 09:57 AM

I tried it (not court ordered, voluntarily) with ex, at my initiation. I even paid for his account.

My motivation was to limit the amount of contact between us. I found he, and his new wife (OW, my former best friend) were e-mailing me several times a day, and I hoped OFW would curtail that.

It totally backfired.

In addition to sending me the same number of e-mails (just through OFW), they used the "journal" function to "document" every. single. little. thing. Things the kids said, every single item sent between houses, every activity they did, and so forth.

Even when I set it to only receive the once a day 5pm notifications, I had to wade through 7-8 useless/unnecessary communication just to see if there was anything I actually needed to know.

I tried it for 2 months and then told ex I was no longer accessing it and he would have to contact me via e-mail again. They still e-mail me about 4-5x as much as I contact them, but it's much more reasonable than what I was receiving with OFW.

GreatRoleModel posted 5/11/2013 10:36 AM

We use the Cozi calendar app on our phones. Seems to be working ok and it does cut down on the amount of time I need to communicate with god's gift to women

scotslass posted 5/11/2013 12:33 PM

I love familywizard. And it seemed to be working for over 2 years. Now he has decided that he is not going to communicate through this website.

One of the reasons I like it is that my only other email address is one that all three of my children have access too. The reason for this is that my ex spouse was extremely secretive and I have tried to show my children an open, honest policy. I don't have anything to hide.

Also familywizard, I believe, can be accessed by our judge if need be. It's also stops a lot of my ex's threatening behavior.

seekingright2013 posted 5/11/2013 15:35 PM

I believe google calendar can do the same thing and it's free.

You can set up multiple calendars with various levels of privileges, notifications etc. I synced it with iCal also.

And did I mention, it's free

scotslass posted 5/11/2013 17:15 PM

It's not so much about the calendar. We Re kept uptodate on their schedules pretty well.

It's more about issues and expenses just between the two of us. This is what works well for me.