SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

You are not logged in. Login here or register.

[Register]

Newest Member: fallenbutnotdone (61089)

User

Topic: 2nd weddings

devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961

Posted: 8:02 PM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013

My best friend is getting married in September. She is about 53, fiance is 46ish. They are very happy, and I am happy for them. Her kids are grown and gone, his are about 16 and 12.

This is 2nd marriage for her, he never married the kid's mom, so first for him. They are doing the "full" wedding...100ish guests, white dress, 4 of us on each side in the wedding party.

Do I throw her a shower? They have a house, they have everything they "need"....help! I don't know the expectation on a second wedding. I know i wouldn't want a shower...but then,I didn't want them the first time around either! I hate them!

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5919 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada

Undefinabl3
♀ 36883
Member # 36883

Posted: 8:29 PM, May 11th (Saturday), 2013

Throw her a shower, call it a party!!

You will have the side that say 'you shouldn't do that, its tacky'

and then those that would say "who cares!"

You have options....

Have a girls weekend, pamper at the spa, find a cabin and chill, go to another city and site see....but only girls - so kinda shower, bachlorette, kinda party thingy.

If they really dont need anything, then just make it fun...

Me: 32 MH
Him: 39 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.

Posts: 2393 | Registered: Sep 2012

Topic Posts: 2

Return to Forum

This Topic is Archived