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User Topic: wedding anniversary and dream
InnerLight
♀ 19946
Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's a wedding anniversary today. We got married on mother's day and on this date 21 years ago. I had hoped to be a mother but it was not to be. Feeling a bit more down and affected by this because I have a cold too so I feel kind of pathetic.

Had lunch on Friday with an old friend of us as a couple I hadn't seen since before the debacle, over 5 years. We had fallen out of touch. I shared the story and teared up. It's different when you share with people who knew you as a couple. This guy made our wedding cake for us way back when.

A few days ago I dreamed that I invited my X on the dance floor. It was evening and outdoors and there were twinkly lights and other people around. We danced with joy and it was fun. But then we lost our footing and fell and I hurt myself. Not too hard to see the symbolism in that dream!


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5905 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((InnerLight))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26217 | Registered: Aug 2011
InnerLight
♀ 19946
Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the hugs.

Of course for distraction I turn on the radio and out comes a medly of songs about lost love.

I turn on a movie and there's a marriage proposal.


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5905 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, for Pete's sake! Can you turn it to SyFy or ESPN???


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26217 | Registered: Aug 2011
cayc
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Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's a rodeo on CBS right now. Watching cute guys ride bulls might be a distraction!

But seriously. I hate the "blindsides" of recognizing not only what was lost but what we missed out on.


(((InnerLight)))


"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." - Louisa May Alcott

Posts: 3160 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((InnerLight)))

Posts: 36497 | Registered: Mar 2011
persevere
♀ 31468
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((InnerLight)))


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4674 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
InnerLight
♀ 19946
Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, May 12th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought I was past this, but it got to me today. I am just waiting for 5/12 to be over.

Texted my SO to say I was down and he called me right away. I told him it was an anniversary day and he said he was sorry I was down. Told me I was sexy and smart and had a beautiful smile. That was nice to hear and SO then changed the subject after 1 minute.

My sister is out w her hubby. Just got you guys today.

Waaaaaaahhhhhhh!

Tx for the hugs.

5 years and here I am.....



BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5905 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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