"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
eta: My kids are adults. I will not do a thing for him for Father's Day. The man I had children with doesn't exist any longer.
[This message edited by kernel at 8:19 AM, May 13th (Monday)]
I didn't respond because I just didn't want to *go there* in my head.....even for a thx or your welcome.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
From me personally, no. I can't bring myself to acknowledge that day to him.
I also had the kids call my MIL. She wasn't home. Oh well...
I also had the kids call my MIL
He did seem totally pissed at me today so I'm thinking he forgot his own mother (when M sent her flowers, but no longer (another story)) and he is probably blaming me for his own lack of forethought.
-am I wrong to smile at that?!?
hes with OW, and her kids spoiling her with a meal of fresh lobster, that was our tradition,
But I had my kids with me and my new baby grandson so i had a good day while they were here
As for fathers day, the kids didnt acknowledge it for him last year, although i did send him a text wishing him a happy fathers day. Our kids are older and they are very upset with what WH has done to our family so they dont show him any love or respect, sad but true
Not sure what I will do this year, depends on what he does regarding today, he might actually text me tomorrow, seems he sends best wishes the day after, first Christmas, New Years, and my birthday. Surprisingly Easter was right on time with a "I wish i was with you right now, I miss you so much, I wish you didnt tell me not to come back| (on March 22, i called him at work and told him that i dont want to see him anymore as long as OW is a part of his life, that was over 7 weeks ago)
Looks like hes happy where he is, why is beyond me, she is opposite of me, bossy, demanding, etc, and has told WH sooooo many lies about herself and about things me or DD did (which we didnt, like making phone calls to her, saying stuff we said but didnt say)
Shes a real piece of work, but he stays, and today he spent it with her and kids that he has no biological connection to, she is not a mom because of WH, 2 other men had the misfortune of that honour, and they have nothing to do with their kids, makes me wonder if they saw her for what she really is
I am not sure why he bothered, other than to make sure my day was as crappy as it always was when he was around.
(It wasn't crappy. The kids are delightful. But why call your kids to make sure they're taking care of Mother's Day, if you have no intention of helping them? He's so bizarre.)
And yes, until now I have made sure that Father's Day has been observed.
I won't be doing so this year. The kids are both very disenchanted with him. If they choose to observe the day, fine. But I will not orchestrate anything. He's spent 26 years being an asshole on Mother's Day. I abdicate.
[This message edited by solus sto at 9:04 PM, May 12th (Sunday)]
On Sunday, my son had a football match and STBX was there with his troll and he just ignored me - walked right past me.
Ah well, my kids love me and made a fuss of me on Mother's Day. I don't need or want that POS's empty platitudes.
Hope all you amazing mums had a good day.
I have a struggle letting go, as you all know, so will do the same with her for father's day. It's hard to let go of 20 years and if I take myself out of the picture, I suppose in his own selfish way he tries to be a father.
Yep, for this baby he asked several times if I was "sure I wanted to keep it." After several cows I had about it, he's accepted the baby and now talks about names and apts.
My core beliefs could not let me part with this baby coming, no matter how hard I know it will be. He already robbed me of one major core belief-thou shall not commit adultery-so all I have left is the baby coming from that point of view. I know I didn't to anything, but was "touched" by it.
Sorry for the lengthy post and belated Happy Mother's Day.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
I thought it was very strange he should send me a card.
I did send flowers to him mom. This is a complicated relationship. She wants to support her son, but he doesn't respect her AT ALL; and when they fight and he refuses letting her see the kids, she goes through me, so we keep our relationship strictly about the kids now. She was a wonderful mother-in-law and is great with my kids, so I make every effort to keep in touch with her. Really wish I was co-parenting with her instead..
And no, I don't believe I will be doing anything for Father's Day. He doesn't deserve it..
WH#2 and I have no children together but he did take me and his parents out for lunch and he bought his Mom a nice plant and I got her a card from us. My step-son called me. It was actually a very enjoyable day for me.