Thanks again everyone.
When we were in front of the judge yesterday, my ex looked visibly shaken. Apparently in his homemade lawsuit (which only cost him $25) he did not have the correct legal affidavit. My fantastic lawyer spotted that immediately. Anyway when we counter-sued with correct legal documentation my ex was ashen.
My lawyer wanted him served after we had been sworn in, in front of our judge. His reasoning: that way my ex could not say he had not been served, and it saved money for me instead of having a constable have to do it. Also saves on time.
I have to say. In the three and half years since he moved out - this is the very first time that I felt empowered. I sued him! What a positive feeling it gave me.
I know the road ahead is going to be extremely tough - especially with the parental alienation that he has caused between my and my children. But I am doing this for them. I need to get them all on a normal, healthy track for the future.