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scotslass posted 5/13/2013 16:14 PM

Well. We went to court this morning. Outcome, due to my lawyers counter suit we have been rescheduled for two weeks time.

Thanks to everyone for their best wishes.

devistatedmom posted 5/13/2013 22:08 PM

Well, I wish they could have told you about the reschedule before you went, but hopefully the counter suit is worth it!

hexed posted 5/14/2013 01:36 AM

good news :)

la433 posted 5/14/2013 10:33 AM

Good!

Enough time to get stuff together so he can chew your X up.

scotslass posted 5/14/2013 14:57 PM

Thanks again everyone.

When we were in front of the judge yesterday, my ex looked visibly shaken. Apparently in his homemade lawsuit (which only cost him $25) he did not have the correct legal affidavit. My fantastic lawyer spotted that immediately. Anyway when we counter-sued with correct legal documentation my ex was ashen.

My lawyer wanted him served after we had been sworn in, in front of our judge. His reasoning: that way my ex could not say he had not been served, and it saved money for me instead of having a constable have to do it. Also saves on time.

I have to say. In the three and half years since he moved out - this is the very first time that I felt empowered. I sued him! What a positive feeling it gave me.

I know the road ahead is going to be extremely tough - especially with the parental alienation that he has caused between my and my children. But I am doing this for them. I need to get them all on a normal, healthy track for the future.

la433 posted 5/14/2013 15:12 PM

This is such good news.

As far as the children go, they probably just don't really "get it" yet. They're old enough to understand that their father was unfaithful and has sexual addiction problems and alcohol problems. But they're probably not old enough to have been hurt by a relationship to understand this. That's ok. They just need to be told so it's been lodged in the back of their mind, so when something happens to them, the light in the back of their head goes off and then they "get it".

You ARE doing the right thing.

Keep it up!

scotslass posted 5/14/2013 18:04 PM

Thanks la433

I love your tag line

"Arise and be all that you dreamed."

This reaffirms that I am doing the right thing.

tesla posted 5/14/2013 18:26 PM

Yay! Empowerment feels awesome