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User Topic: is this normal?
♀ 39082
Member # 39082
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, we are reconciling. Just beginning so its slow goin'. Today I just feel like I don't know if I really want to spend the rest of my life with him. He is depressed. He suffers from migraines and is incapacitated. I keep having thoughts of them together and his emails telling her the things I would love to hear from him like "you looked so hot today" and "I'm so jealous that other people get to see you all day."
I love him. I want an intact family. I think he can be a great husband. I just want to feel wanted, loved, adored and right now, I don't.
Anyone else reconciling and having days where they wonder if all this is worth it?

Me(34) - BS
Him(35) - WH
Married: 9 years
Two Kids: 4 and 6
D-Day #1: 7/12, D-Day #2: 4/24/13
Affair: EA to PA with coworker
Status of A: Says he broke it off after I went to her house and confronted both of them

Posts: 59 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Maine
♀ 37154
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep, completely normal. They don't call it a roller coaster for nothing!

Hang in there! Hugs!!

Dday -9/23/2012

Posts: 2309 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
♀ 39169
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes! One day will be great and the next day I never want to see him again.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

Posts: 984 | Registered: May 2013
♀ 25518
Member # 25518
Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, May 13th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am raising my hand . One day I love him and in a matter of hours I want to never see his face again . Go figure

Copied from HUFI-PUFI
Donít listen to your head, itís easily confused. Donít listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: East Coast
Member # 38921
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So true. Everyday is different. Today I'm in the why bother phase. Wondering if I am wasting my time and if I love him at all anymore. Don't know....wish it was clearer

Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
♀ 36654
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. We all feel like that at times. It is completely normal to feel this way. Hang in there, tomorrow is a new day and who knows where you will be then. Sorry, I know it sucks.

BS-54 XWH#2-No longer my monkey
M-11yrs LTA-5yrs Divorced 8/15
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"

Posts: 8884 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
♀ 37190
Member # 37190
Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder it pretty much every day :-(

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016

Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
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