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She11ybeanz posted 5/14/2013 07:25 AM

Okay...so most of you know that my XWH and MOW started running races during my separation (my XWH used to HATE running when we were married and MOW couldn't run a block without getting winded). Basically they did it to spite me and to be nosy and "in my face." Which is fine....I'm a better runner anyways...and results speak for themselves....

Well....a new interesting turn of events..... my daughter's sperm donor has now apparently been sought out by MOW and now she, XWH, and him are now friends....(or I assume she sought him out because that's her usual M.O... very aggressive by nature....but its possibly that he reached out to her). He used to be on my running team and he dropped out and started his own team now and I'm sure they will be on it... OH... and the new team's name you ask? "The Rebel Runners"

I don't know how I feel about this. Part of me is pissed that he is friends with them after what they did to me....but the other part of me has to remind THAT part that HE is probably worse than them and hurt me probably worse.....so ..."Que sera sera??"

I don't know. Has anyone else ever had an ex friend another ex just to be a total ass??? Or a OM/OW?

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 7:27 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)]

nowiknow23 posted 5/14/2013 07:32 AM

I'm sorry - but this just has me laughing. Better to have all the garbage in one tidy pile if you ask me. All the easier to ignore if it's not spread out everywhere.

She11ybeanz posted 5/14/2013 07:37 AM

I think what baffles me....is WHY? I don't know why they would all want to be friends....they have nothing in common but me and maybe the small tiny running thing. Other than that....MOW and XWH are all about appearances....and hanging out with a deadbeat loser like my daughter's sperm donor is not something I can really picture them doing....

But, Like you said....keeping the garbage together is a good idea....now if I can just scoop it all into the disposal and let karma hit the switch....

SisterMilkshake posted 5/14/2013 08:05 AM

She11ybeanz, you must be one big, fantastic, powerful, intimidating, formidable human being for them to have to band together to make themselves feel equal to you and to be able to face you. As nik says, this makes me laugh. You are so awesome and strong, and they are so very weak and pathetic. They really are in awe of you and must admire you albeit, I am sure, grudgingly. (((She11)))

She11ybeanz posted 5/14/2013 08:09 AM

SisterMilkshake... You made me smile! Thank you!

I never thought of it that way. hehe.... My therapist in IC finds it fascinating that after all of this time that my XWH and MOW seem obsessed with me still.....and that it must be because they feel inadequate with themselves. I KNOW that the sperm donor feels adequate....cause he isn't even labeled a man in my eyes..... just pond scum with legs....

Oh well.... let them BOND.... even douchebags need friends right?? Gotta stick with their own kind!!

SisterMilkshake posted 5/14/2013 08:13 AM

Pass posted 5/14/2013 08:31 AM

As it has been said many times on here: "Broken attracts broken."

She11ybeanz posted 5/14/2013 08:38 AM

Maybe I should think of it as my own personal FAN CLUB!!! I mean...they obviously can't get enough of me! I should be flattered!!!

stupidstupidme posted 5/14/2013 09:00 AM

FT and his wife put Andy and I through hell. If you recall, they even got him (and other officers) in trouble at work. Crazy stuff, threats (before FT knew he was a cop), etc... all experienced firsthand by Andy, not my words and influence. In court, Andy's mother also saw firsthand all the lies, etc... about both me and her son.

Andy is now friends with FT and wife. He goes there. He picks up the Bunt and spends time with him (very infrequently, but still) after I asked him to please stay away from him (had very good reasons). Andy's mother - is now on FB and friends with them as well, gushing over how wonderful they both are.

When I saw it I felt like I stepped into the twilight zone. CRAZY. I tend to be a little paranoid about it, but try to just ignore... IDK

h0peless posted 5/14/2013 09:16 AM

She must really like picking up your sloppy seconds! How pathetic.

Amazonia posted 5/14/2013 09:23 AM

I'm actually friends with a couple of my XH's xgfs, women he dated before me. Actually ran into one of them (the "one who got away" and broke his heart after he started throwing plates at her during arguments ) while on a date last weekend! She winked and said I was moving up.

Kajem posted 5/14/2013 09:35 AM

Shelly,

My X and NW are still obsessed with me 10 years later. My therapist told me that I am the glue that holds that relationship together. As long as they have a enemy in common they will stay together. That was 2005.. it is now 2013.. and it still holds true. Only now their is a long list of enemies to keep the glue in abundant supply.

Hugs,

K

thebighurt posted 5/14/2013 10:00 AM

MOW and XWH are all about appearances

This made me because everyone who is all about appearances has affairs and goes around following the BS, joining in their activities and is photographed glaring at her after years! You must really be amazing to cause such obsession, She11y.

She11ybeanz posted 5/14/2013 10:17 AM

Yeah...that picture of him glaring at me was PRICELESS! If I had seen that at the race I would have bowed and winked!

Random thoughts posted 5/14/2013 10:48 AM

Just imagine the awkward silences between them when they are not focused on you.

I bet when out with other who don't even know you they bring you up, how freaking weird is that?

I wonder what they say when asked what got them running?

Well you see I was married and cheated on my wife with mow, now that I'm divorced I have too or WE have to stalk Shell to have something to share between ourselves

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