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Undone1 posted 5/14/2013 09:25 AM

In MC I told my H that he would need to help me recover from all the business travel he did with the OW. I struggle with hotel rooms, cities they went to, etc.

He apparently heard me and over the weekend told me that he had planned a romantic get-a-way for the two of us to New Orleans. He planned everything around my interests! We are staying in a Bed and Breakfast, have a Cajun cooking class together, a bike trip to cemeteries, multiple restaurants, and more. For the first time I am excited about the future and looking forward.

It has been a LONG 6 months and I am feeling positive about recovery and reconciliation.

h0pe4ul posted 5/14/2013 10:24 AM

Good for you, Undone! and Kudos to your H for "hearing" you and doing something about what he heard.

This is what R is all about!!!

I pray that you both have a wonderful time during your getaway and that you will bond even more than ever.

May your healing process together be one that is united and complete. May you both become so united that no one will ever be able to come between the two you of ever again.

This is my prayer for you and your H!

Undone1 posted 5/14/2013 10:34 AM

Hope,

Thanks so much!!! Appreciate the prayer. It's all so hard. Who would have thought that we would all end up here.

h0pe4ul posted 5/14/2013 10:39 AM

Yeah, even in the best of circumstances, things can be quite tough when recovering from betrayal.

You and your H sound like you are both putting the work in though.

Be easy on yourself. It's going to take a good while before your emotions catch up to what you see and is really going on in your life now.

It sounds like you are still working through many things regarding the A and other OW but it is also good your H is trying to help w/your healing process as much as he can.

One day at a time.....that is the best gift you can give you right now...and it's OK to not be 100% in the midst of your process now.

The time will come when you will be. :).

For now, it seems like you are heading in the right direction.

cheerless posted 5/14/2013 13:47 PM

Happy for you Undone1!

libertyrocks posted 5/14/2013 15:24 PM

Oh, I'm so happy for you! Yes, to the good memories you will make. I'm all about new memories! I don't care about OW anymore.

I'm 5 months out.

Have fun and enjoy yourselves.

Undone1 posted 5/14/2013 15:29 PM

LibertyRocks: It is awesome that you have gotten rid of the OW. I hope to be there in the future!