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Dawn58 posted 5/14/2013 11:33 AM

I want people to know what a lying cheat he is. I want him to be knocked off his high horse. I want people to know that his "soul mate" is a homewrecker. I want the people she works for to know that she is having an affair with a married man who just happens to be serving on the board where she works as well. I want the bank he works for know that he broke the moral conduct agreement they expect from their employees. He signed a contract saying that his personal conduct would not cause embarrassment to the bank. I want his alma mater to know that he did not deserve the distinguished alumni award because he has no integrity. I want the Universities and the YMCA where he is the chairman of the respective boards to know that he is a liar and a cheat. I want him to have a fall from grace, to know that people know he is a cheater and a liar and that people have passed a judgement on him. I want to see his reputation go down the toilet.

I want him to bear the consequences of his actions, instead of me paying the price for his "happiness" I want his world to come crashing down, just like my world came crashing down. And he gets to just walk away, still live in the beautiful house that I spent the last four months overseeing the remodel, enjoy the garden that I spent hours redesigning with the landscape contractor, have the job that compensates him quite well, keep all the friends we had, the social status and have love in his life.

With the divorce, he just will have a little less money, but for a man that made 1.8 million dollars last year, he will have plenty of that to meet his needs and spend lots of money on the skank.

I want the truth to come out. I don't want to keep his dirty little secret.

doggiemom12 posted 5/14/2013 13:35 PM

Why not tell people the truth? Is there a problem with that?

I wouldn't go out of my way to disrupt his work but certainly if anyone asks I would say what happened.

And I hope you are getting a substantial settlement for yourself.

JanaGreen posted 5/14/2013 13:40 PM

And I hope you are getting a substantial settlement for yourself.

This.

And yeah, I wouldn't break my back keeping his secrets.

1Faith posted 5/14/2013 15:48 PM

I always told my husband NOT my secret to keep.

You did it - you deal with it in all its guts and "glory"

I tried to minimize who knew to protect our children but people did find out and he had to apologize to them too.

Don't feel obligated to cover up for his poor choices. You have been dealt enough.

Do what you need to do.

Keep moving.

LearningToFly posted 5/14/2013 17:31 PM

You don't have to keep his secret. Don't be vindictive because it will end up hurting you but why protect him. He showed his true character. If someone asks, tell them he cheated.