Thank you, NIK!
The "Stop Sign Theory" as I call it, helped for a long time. So long and so well that the movies/visions went away.
Another thing to add to your good advice, is when the mind movies advance on me, I remind myself of all the bad things that this man has caused and it helps, too.
It's an idea I'm working on that the movies are a little cyclical, like anxiety and will keep coming without the stop sign or other thoughts entering the circle or rhythm.
I'm still working on identifying the triggers for them and am really sad at times, because one trigger was thinking about the baby...this is usually a pleasant thought for me and has gotten me out of the mind trap before, but I wondered if the D process set me back to the stop sign?
Yes, the chores help too and then at the end of the day, I can see something physical done with my time.
I also started yoga a few weeks ago-partly for school requirement, but I find it helpful, too, for anybody on SI or elsewhere looking for new things to do.
It's really low key and the class I found is full of older people who don't wear make up, don't dress to the 9's to work out and aren't in any competition. Those things kept me from gyms for years.
Thank you for the nice replies. I feel like this is a setback, with all I've been doing to get rid of the awful thoughts.
I'm not even attracted to the guy anymore, either and have felt just disgust for quite some time. So it was doubly confusing to have this return.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.