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homewrecked2011 posted 5/14/2013 20:14 PM

Why would this be a project?

why can't he just tell me what 4 weeks he wants kids (his year to choose first).

I have to give him my dates tomorrow,,by him not telling me the 4 weeks he wants, he basically just let me go first. How stupid can u be?

He says work issues prevent him from taking a vacation this year and taking the kids to see his family in Ohio. Yeah, Right. been on the job 25 years, 4 weeks vacation,,, he wants to spend it with slut.

Should I call his family and tell them I will make sure they see the kids (my family lives close to his). I am sure he's blaming me to his family.

la433 posted 5/15/2013 04:32 AM

Document.

His loss.

Bluebird26 posted 5/15/2013 04:56 AM

Ditto what La433 said.

If you still have a close bond with his family and you can take the kids to see his family you should do this.

It's frustrating I have to deal with the same issue, my xwh. He fought in mediation for his 'vacation time' with the kids he has only taken the option once for one week in the 2 years we have been separated. It's all about control and screwing me around as much as he can.

Heal&Deal posted 5/15/2013 12:50 PM

Why does he act like this? Well, because in marshmallow cloud land, you still believe his nonsense and care what he does. Otherwise, he would just tell the damn truth, so you could go about making fun summer plans for you and the kids.

Please try to ignore the silliness, get your dates set and focus on getting the good stuff on the calendar for you and the kiddos.

If your plans can accommodate swinging the kids by to spend some time with his family, absolutely do so. My ex MIL still is kind and has issued a standing invitation. This is likely due to the fact that it will be about the only time she sees DS, due to XH's choices. She loves DS and he loves her. She is kind to me. Why not nurture that? Good all the way around.

Good luck and keep us updated on how your vacation time goes!!!!